Rick appeared to be the quintessential "five-tool talent" for pastoral ministry. He was a great communicator, a good administrator, an astute musician, a charismatic personality, and he seemed dedicated to his family.

He was also caught up in the rush of ministry life, exhausted in workaholism, and angry toward church members. His marriage was rocky because of ongoing disputes about life...

Married To a Sex Addict

Not all men who like to view pornography are sex addicts.  But as I learned more about sexual addiction, I learned that Jeff demonstrated all the characteristics of an addict.

He would turn to pornography when he felt lonely or unloved.  It made him feel, although only briefly, like someone important.

He felt guilty about using pornography and frequently vowed this...

“You have been given the choice between war and dishonor. You have chosen dishonor, and you will have war!” - Winston Churchill to the English Parliament, 1938

After the English Parliament’s 1938 appeasement in Czechoslovakia, Churchill saw the danger of choosing peace, when honor and common sense called for battle. History, of course, would confirm his point: Refusing to fight an honorable...

This road through recovery has led to many amazing discoveries. The biggest surprise has been the discovery of a number of lies I had accepted as truth.

I believed my husband needed to earn my respect.
I believe that 99% of the time I was right about 99% of everything.
I believed my best ministry years were behind me.
I believed my marriage was hopeless.

Many of these lies were perpetuated by...

We all have inherent weaknesses that make us vulnerable to particular kinds of sin, don’t we? That means something that’s a snare for one man may be completely harmless for another. But one thing we all have in common is that we each must accept responsibility for ourselves. That means you need to guard against anything that exploits our weaknesses and provides a situation where it will...

Here is another great blog from Marsha of Porn to Purity. Her commitment to others is amazing and her heart for this cause is amazing. I hope that you are able to take much with you after this blog from her and her friend Linda.

For the wife of a sexual addict, it’s so easy to get caught up with the things of this world and of the “flesh” and completely forget that there is a “spiritual” side...

As many of you know from time to time we talk about some amazing people who have amazing stories of grace and redemption through the trials they have been through. Harmony Dust has one of those amazing stories and she is able to speak into peoples lives with honesty and faith. I hope that this blog can touch many of you thourhg her words. - Brian

Are you in Love with a Sex Addict?

Sex...

Here is a part of a book called "The Dirt on Sex" by Justin Lookadoo.  I think that this will speak volumes to many of you that visit here.

A Real Question from a Real E-mail:

“I’ve already messed up and had sex.  Does that mean my life is ruined? Help!”

                                                                                      – Rachel B., 16

Absolutely not!  Your life is not...

It is a rare thing for a church to handle sexual sin the right way.  Some of you may have experienced the heavy hand of a church or pastor.  Some may have seen a leader or pastor fall to sexual sin.
I know of some churches that have done it the right way.   They are Hall of Fame churches in my opinion!  Here are some things I have observed about churches that do it right:
   
1.  They are...

Every week a group of guys who call themselves “Real Men of Genius” (in obvious jest) meet together to chat about life, faith and struggles they are having. These guys are in different places in their life and spiritual journey. Some are Pastors, some are laborers, some are administrators, some are married, some are fathers… but all are there to connect with one another and to honestly share...