So, I had just broken up with a girlfriend and I was feeling incredibly vulnerable. I waited a few days until I couldn’t bear it any longer; I broke down and called her. I was showing her that I was willing to be the one to resolve it, however in that particular situation, a resolution never came. So I felt empty and incomplete due to the fact that I was now alone after such an...

“My reaction to porn films is as follows: After the first ten minutes, I want to go home and screw. After the first 20 minutes, I never want to screw again as long as I live.” -Erica Jong

"Pornographers subvert this last, vital privacy; they do our imagining for us. They take away the words that were of the night and shout them over the roof-tops, making them hollow." -George Steiner 

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“Boys and girls in America have such a sad time together; sophistication demands that they submit to sex immediately without proper preliminary talk. Not courting talk — real straight talk about souls, for life is holy and every moment is precious.” 
― Jack Kerouac, On the Road

I’ve always loved this quote, especially since it sounds like it was written by any scene (or perhaps some of you...

This is a pretty basic confession, right? That’s why we’re all here reading these blogs; we struggle with lusting and pornography. But are we made to struggle every day? Are we resigned for the rest of our lives to say “Well, it’s a daily struggle.” I feel like that’s a bit of an antiquated but accepted notion these days. Sure, its difficult, it’s EXTREMELY difficult some days. In the end...

The first time I heard a friend talk about the sex was in 6^th grade. A friend had supposedly lost his virginity the year before while hiding out from a youth group service with his girlfriend. His words which still remain in my mind to this day, carried a weight of confusion as I listened and I struggled to understand how the act was even possible, let alone possible for someone my age. From...

I realize that setting physical boundaries with your significant other can sound a little…lame, unromantic, stifling, restrictive etc. And I used to agree! What about spontaneity? What about embracing the moment? What about enjoying that perfect movie moment? Sure, those things all hit you like a ton of emotional bricks when you’re a teenager in love. But the truth is, setting boundaries, both...

You’ve heard it time and time again-“You can’t do this alone”. I can’t stress enough how true this is. Pornography and sexual addiction is a beast, it lurks and devours and attaches itself to its victims, sometimes for life. Recently, a friend pointed out that sin can sometimes have a “bounce off” effect, as if sin is constantly on its toes, waiting for an opening. When a friend is struggling...

Here we are again, its 4am. It’s a good thing I don’t have to be up for anything important in the morning. What freedom! What fun! Searching for hours on end for the one perfect scene, the one perfect woman, the one perfect face and series of movements, sounds and rhythms, that one perfect moment in which I’ll complete my nightly quest and finally fall asleep “satisfied”.

But then you can’t...

Tommy Green is the front man of the hardcore Christian outfit Sleeping Giant. Previously, Green spent several years with the extremely hardcore act XDeathstarX. He also heads up Revolution Reality, a youth centered ministry in Salt Lake City, Utah with his wife Krissi. He has two children and spends several months of his year out on the road with his band. This past year, Green released his...

Telling some of us to refrain from masturbating is like telling some of ourselves to stop breathing. Sure maybe for a couple of minutes you can survive but then you need to breath. It’s like an impulse that you can’t see a way out of and there is no other option but to have some happy time with yourself. If you’ve in any way found yourself looking at porn a lot you will know that over time...