Jim Mc

I am currently 50 years old, married to a wonderful wife Sarah and have two daughters ages 22 and 7.  I've struggled with sexual addiction for most of my life going back to grade school.  It wasn't until I sought recovery through a 12 step program 4 years ago that I started to unravel the mystery of this addiction.  What I've learned is I can not survive on my own.  I need to rely on my family, my friends and most importantly God to get me through life's struggles.  While I have a long history of medicating my problems with unhealthy behavior, I know that when I am reliant on God to be my savior things work out for the best.  I can only have faith and hope that I rely on Him more and more every day.

Jim Mc

Forgiving ourselves for the pain our sexual addiction has caused others is no easy task.    We’ve hurt those we loved.  We lied.  We cheated.  We stole.  We violated our values.  We broke marriages; ours and others.  We lived double lives.  Obviously these were not minor misgivings - doesn’t a harsh punishment seem more appropriate than forgiveness?!  However, we are very good at being hard on...

Whether you’re trying to learn how to hit a curve ball, dribble with your left hand or fade a 7 iron it takes practice, patience, commitment and time.  The same is true for achieving a lasting and meaningful recovery from sexual addiction.

My history of using sex to medicate my feelings of unworthiness started over 35 years ago and I’m not going to rewire my body and brain back to normalcy...

I don’t know about you but I can come up with all kinds of reasons to act out.  Got in a fight with my wife - look at some porn.  Just lost a key client - chat on-line.  Feeling lonely - flirt with the girl at the grocery store.  How about this one!  Just got a promotion - go home and masturbate!!  Yes, even positive things that happen in my life can trigger my emotions and cause me to...

Life was so serious when I was wrapped up in my addiction.  I was able to turn most things into “life and death” it seemed.  I heard a term for this recently: “Awfulizing” - although made up, I like it!  I’d have every life event figured out and of course I’d write the worst possible outcome in my head regardless of what the bible tells us in Ecclesiastes 8:7 (NIV) “Since no one knows the...

I must admit that addressing this topic has been very challenging.  While I have a very clear understanding of the role that control plays in my addiction, it was more difficult for me to connect with it’s specific role when I watch porn.  However, after much introspection and conversation with friends I can now make a more direct connection.  I am very grateful to the XXX Church for assigning...

Before trying to stop the act, I think it's important to commit to the belief that is masturbation is destructive.  While it is my belief that it is an unhealthy and destructive behavior for me I didn't always feel this way.  And when I didn't fully commit to this it was too easy to rationalize my way into thinking that it was ok.  In many different ways, mainstream society tells us it’s OK to...

If you are reading this you most likely have come to the realization that you have a problem.  And that problem is that you are a slave to sexual sin.   The good news is that you are here looking for a solution.  I know first hand what it feels like to be in bondage to this disease.  The addictive cycle that occurs over and over again consists of making bad decisions, followed by intense and...