“You are sexually pure when no sexual gratification comes from anyone or anything but your wife.”  –Steve Arterburn

 Nice Stevie!  So true.  I agree.

 Is this true for your husband? Is your sex life the only thing he is getting sexual gratification from? Are you encouraging a healthy sex life?  Have you talked with him about your sex life and his needs?  Lately?  It’s time to talk.  Right...

Read the above title?  Is this your issue?  If so….YOU HAVE TO DO IT!  In my first marriage, I never even thought about my husband having a porn issue.  I have never seen porn….and it is the furthest thing from my mind, so I (wrongfully) assumed his too!  I remember when xxxchurch came and spoke at a church we attended and I asked my husband, “do you struggle with porn?” He quickly said “no”. ...

            “Can you feel the love tonight?”  NO Elton, I can’t!  I have done 12 loads of laundry, 1^st grade spelling homework, hours of fourth grade homework, I've cleaned pee off the bathroom celling (I have boys).  I now have play dough under my nails and baby puke in my hair.  My panties say “fruit of the loom” and there is not a stitch of silk or lace on them.   I don’t think I even know...

Step One.  Start again.  To some of you those are fresh words that mean a NEW start. To some of you that is frustrating because you may have had to go back to “step one” several times.  What does it look like to “learn it all over again” when it comes to a relationship?  What if you spouse has fallen several times and is asking for another chance?  What if you were called out of that...

Any of you feel this way?  Does Porn Piss you off?  Did I use enough exclamation marks? 

My ex had a porn problem and yes, it made me mad and feel like I was not good enough.  Now that I am in a better…MORE healthy marriage, Porn makes me mad.  I get so angry when I see it tear apart another woman or marriage.

I become so sad and then angry when I get a call from a friend  who just finds out...

I had to laugh.  If you asked my husband it might be “What do I do when my wife WON’T stop sexting me at work!”  I have tried to make this an art form and have gotten a little ummm (cough cough) creative with it.  I love for my husband to read it and be a little shocked, a little turned on, and to know I am thinking about him…..really thinking about him.

This may be super uncomfortable for...

Not to sound like my 2 year old…..but I want more.  I want an abundance!  Clothes? Shoes? Money? Sex?  NO.  Peace.  I want an abundant life full of peace…..Lots of it. 

Many try to strive for an abundant life but they fill it with stuff or desires and they are left empty every time.  I used to be like that and on my bad days I still am.  But after being cheated on, abused and left, I have a...

Did any of you see that show? Temptation Island? I think I watched 2 seconds of it and knew that it was a BAD idea!  I love that couples thought it was a good idea to put themselves into temptation to see if they would “make it”.   DUH.  Seriously.  The bible tells us our “flesh is weak” (Matt 26:41).

 How do we as wives help our husbands FLEE temptation?  I think it starts with the screens in...

Here are some verses to cling to when you have been betrayed.  You MUST remember you are the Lord’s  BELOVED.

Psalm 34:17&18

“The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; He delivers them from all their troubles.  The Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in Spirit.”

Jeremiah 29:11

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you...

This will be a short post.  I HATE this question!!  Seriously!  NO.  The answer is NO!  I have good friends that struggled with infertility for years.  When they started treatment, the doctor suggested porn to them to “help”.  I have now learned that infertility sex is stressful and can often feel very forced and detached.  They considered it but knew it was a slippery slope.  Amen.

I have had...