During most of my marriage I had a false sense of reality about sex and love.  I believed to receive love I had to do something sexual.  I was always in a battle and always confused on how sex and love really went together.  This caused me great pain.  Can anyone else relate?

I know for me, in the past, the media was a role model to me for sex and love.  They glamorized sex and made it seem...

Pornography is simply a fantasy world.  It is not real nor is it based on a real relationship or commitment.  It takes God’s beauty and turns it into something degrading and dirty.  However, for most of my marriage I lived in the shadows of pornography.  I lived feeling as if I were second best to all the fantasy images and never truly felt as if I could ever measure up to my husband’s...

It was almost 18 years ago that I sat in my living room, holding my newborn son, and sobbing tears of pain.  I cried relentlessly as I discovered my husband’s well-kept secret.  I had so many questions on that dreadful day when I learned of his sexual addiction.  Who was he really?  Who was this man that I thought was my prince charming?  Does he have a secret life?  How could he do this to...

During this month we will be revisiting some of the most viewed blogs over the last year. We would love to see your comments about how these have affected you or how it made you feel.

"Should I Perform Like a Porn Star?"

At times in my marriage, I felt like my husband wanted me to perform like a porn star.  I felt pressured to act and be someone I was not.  I believed if I could perform like a...

            Restoring the trust in my marriage was not an easy journey especially since I have had trust issues for most of my life.  Honestly, at one point I completely gave up and believed it was impossible to restore the trust in my marriage.  However, God’s word taught me that NOTHING is impossible with Him.  Once I latched onto this Truth and God’s Word, He began a transformation in...

I was asked what a healthy sex life looks like in the Word of God.  I thought this was an amazing question since the world’s view has obscured people’s thinking about sex so much.  However, before I could clearly get a grasp on how to answer that question correctly, I had to do a little digging in the Word myself.  I wanted to ensure that my view was accurately in line with God’s view.  In my...

At times in my marriage, I felt like my husband wanted me to perform like a porn star.  I felt pressured to act and be someone I was not.  I believed if I could perform like a porn star then maybe he would want me more… maybe our sex life would finally have that missing link and finally feel complete.  I knew something was missing, but what?  I couldn’t quite figure out what it was we both...

Sadly, for most of my marriage, my husband and I were living in isolation from each other due to the effects of pornography.   Pornography was a topic that was not mentioned in my home unless we were arguing.  Usually he was defending himself and making up lies while I was trying desperately to see through his lies and control his every move.  For us, pornography was the white elephant in the...

It seems that pornography’s influence in our world is more rampant today than ever before!  Did you know that 47% of Christians said pornography was a major problem in their home?  Did you know 40 million U.S. adults visit pornography websites regularly?  You can read more stats here that are really just mind boggling! I’ve done so much research on pornography my eyes have almost become...

As I watch a video on YouTube from a couple talking about sex toys and swinging, my stomach is literally nauseous.  (In case you don’t know, swinging is when a married couple has sex with another couple or another person.) The couple in the video is promoting swinging and actually giving tips on how to be a successful swinging couple.  They say that swinging is about having fun; it’s simply...