At times in my marriage, I felt like my husband wanted me to perform like a porn star.  I felt pressured to act and be someone I was not.  I believed if I could perform like a porn star then maybe he would want me more… maybe our sex life would finally have that missing link and finally feel complete.  I knew something was missing, but what?  I couldn’t quite figure out what it was we both...

Sadly, for most of my marriage, my husband and I were living in isolation from each other due to the effects of pornography.   Pornography was a topic that was not mentioned in my home unless we were arguing.  Usually he was defending himself and making up lies while I was trying desperately to see through his lies and control his every move.  For us, pornography was the white elephant in the...

It seems that pornography’s influence in our world is more rampant today than ever before!  Did you know that 47% of Christians said pornography was a major problem in their home?  Did you know 40 million U.S. adults visit pornography websites regularly?  You can read more stats here that are really just mind boggling! I’ve done so much research on pornography my eyes have almost become...

As I watch a video on YouTube from a couple talking about sex toys and swinging, my stomach is literally nauseous.  (In case you don’t know, swinging is when a married couple has sex with another couple or another person.) The couple in the video is promoting swinging and actually giving tips on how to be a successful swinging couple.  They say that swinging is about having fun; it’s simply...

As a wife of a man who was unfaithful, I was always searching for love, security and affirmation.  This kept me in constant turmoil and always in pursuit of something or someone to fill the hole in my heart.  Thankfully, God took me through a process of healing and taught me where to go to get these needs met so I would no longer have to search. I would love to share with you today a little of...

Yes, I’m a wife of a sex addict.  There I said it!  It is neither anything that I am proud of nor anything that my husband is proud of, but it is what it is.  However, in today’s society people glorify sex but crucify the ones that become addicted to it.  I was speaking with a friend just recently and I confessed that my husband was a sexual addict.  His response was, “A sex addict or...

Since I am married to a recovering sex addict I must constantly work my own recovery so that I can be whole and complete in Christ.  I have found when I am whole and complete, I am better equipped to lift my husband up on the days he is most weak.

On those days when my husband is weak and feeling vulnerable, it can be easy for me to become angry and bitter.  I can easily become overwhelmed...

Since I am married to a recovering sex addict I must constantly work my own recovery so that I can be whole and complete in Christ.  I have found when I am whole and complete, I am better equipped to lift my husband up on the days he is most weak.

On those days when my husband is weak and feeling vulnerable, it can be easy for me to become angry and bitter.  I can easily become overwhelmed...

I was having a conversation with a close friend of mine whose husband also has a sexual addiction. She was telling me how she didn’t feel pretty in comparison with all the other women her husband had looked at.  She was even considering plastic surgery to make herself more attractive to him. She gave me a list of things that were wrong with her body and how she just couldn’t quite measure...

Forgiveness has never been easy for me; especially when fear of betrayal is a key factor.  So, when I was faced with forgiving my husband or simply walking away after 15 years of marriage, I struggled.  Thankfully, through God’s grace, I chose forgiveness.  It was not easy nor was it instantaneous, but God was able to take my one act of faith – forgiveness - and begin restoring my...