When does looking become lusting? Where is line that separates normal, healthy, God-given sexual response from sinful, destructive lust? This is an important question for men struggling with sexual temptation, and also for their spouses.

Let’s say you go to a restaurant. You look over to your left, and notice someone at the next table who is very attractive. Maybe they are dressed...

When you go out to a shopping mall, what do you notice? When you’re out in public, what do you pay attention to? Noticing what we notice can not only help us diagnose how our spiritual growth towards purity is going … it can also carry us further along in this recovery.

When we make a new commitment to dealing with sexual sin, we start to see differently. It’s not simply a matter of not...