To sum up all that sex is about in one blog is as easy as describing how falling in love
works, in one word. It can’t be done. It can’t really be described fully. It has to be experienced.

Having said that, sex is amazing, incredible, selfless, unifying, scary, hard work,
mysterious and best of all, a lot of fun.

Fun?! That certainly is not what a lot of churches have taught sex to be. Dirty?...

Every time I hear someone's story of porn addiction I can find at least one thing that I can relate to. Without fail. But this should not be a surprise to any of us who have ever struggled. Because there are several things that everyone who struggles with porn, believes.

First off, that they are the only one who goes through this.

That is probably the number one common feeling among all porn...

The word “no” is a very tricky word. In some cases it can be a great word. In others it can be horrible. It can be positive and of course it can be negative. How and when we use it can really have a massive effect on our lives, and we might not even know it. It only has two letters but is arguably the most powerful word in the world.

For long periods of my life I used it in the wrong way. I...

Back in the day MC Hammer was telling us that we couldn't touch this. I was never quite sure what we weren't supposed to touch but I am sure it was good advice all the same. Maybe it was those trousers he wore. In which case perhaps he should have taken his own advice and stayed well away from them.

When it comes to porn there is not much better advice than 'you can't touch this'.

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The school years are supposed to be the best years of your lives.

Which is quite a depressing thought if you think about it. Imagine you're 14, lots of pressure in school, you have bad skin, you can't get a girlfriend or a boyfriend and you don't wear the right clothes or look the right way.

And these are the best years of our lives?!

There are certainly people reading this who don't...

So for the last few months I have been going to see a counsellor. I had wanted to for a while but never really plucked up the courage but realised there was a lot of stuff that I needed to deal with.

And hey if it's good enough for Rob Bell and Don Miller it's got to be good enough for me right?!

But going each Monday morning and speaking with someone has been really beneficial. You see porn...

“That was the last time I will ever look at porn..ever”

This is closely followed by

“If I just read my Bible more or pray more then I will stop looking at porn”

On paper there is nothing wrong with those statements. Until of course you look at porn again. Then they seem less like grandiose promises and more like blatant lies.

So if you read your Bible, pray to God, go to Church, and still...

The name Darren Clarke may not mean very much to you. Or Rory Mcllroy or even Graeme McDowell for that matter. Just unusual Irish names. But that couldn’t be any further from the truth.

Three names. Three professional golfers. Oh ...and all three hail from Northern Ireland. I am from Northern Ireland and our history has been pretty colourful. There has been a lot to be ashamed about but there...

Porn effects us in lots of ways.

It can lower your self esteem. It can make you hate yourself. It can cause distance between your boy or girlfriend, wife or husband and most of all it creates distance between you and God.

And because it is a lie it also lies to us about why there is distance between you and God. It tells us it is because God doesn’t love you or that he doesn’t care. It creates...

For many years, I dreaded yesterday. Every year it came and I wanted to bury my head in the sand. That's because yesterday was Father's Day and when I was 11 my Dad died from Cancer.

I can remember everything about the day he died like it was yesterday. It is etched onto my memory. It was surreal, sad, hard and heartwarming all in one. I was just a kid but the love of my friends and...