The human experience was designed with sex in mind. The opposite sex captivates our attention. Physically, chemically, psychologically; sexuality oozes out of our pours. It is a part of what makes humanity unique. Yet it is also because of this drive, this innate desire to be fulfilled in such a way, that churches need to give attention to this topic. Unfortunately, there is this almost...

A few years ago I received a call from a local Saturday morning television talk show asking for my ideas on porn in culture. I had no idea that this conversation would quickly make the jump from the complete saturation of porn in culture to porn in the bedroom. Specifically, one anchor lady said, “Who cares if a couple watches porn in the bedroom. Everyone needs a little help sometimes.” True...

Pastors are called to live lives beyond reproach (1 Timothy 3:2). More so than the average church attender, member or leader, pastors are called to live exceptional lives beyond the standard of fleeing from all sinful desires (2 Timothy 2:22). That is the standard. Pastors are called to be above the standard. A better way of looking at it is that they are to be standard bearers. They set the...

All of creation is in constant motion. We are all - - humanity, animals, plants; everything is undergoing a process of maturation. We are born, we grow, we mature and we die. Life and every aspect of it is cyclical. 

In the context of XXXChurch, we want to discover how this cycle of life, or rather, the aspects of life, are cyclical and part of an ongoing process. In the scope of sexuality or...

Masturbation, at its very root, is very individualistic. It is self-serving. There is no getting around it. While the conversation can include an expansion into the married life, the conversation of this post will focus on the act of masturbation by a pastor, and the implications that come with said action. 

Masturbation runs contrary to what pastors teach. In all things, pastors teach their...

Invasion: An incursion; an effort to conquest or plunder.  

Has pornography invaded my life? The answer to that question is more dynamic than one might think. Yes, porn has invaded my life in that it is everywhere; porn is media driven, socially ambiguous and cultural prevalent. As a pastor, I feel as though I am always under constant attack in this manner. Go ahead and do a quick Google search...

Sitting at the stoplight on the corner just down the street from my office, sits a little coffee shop: Bottoms Up Espresso. We have two of these joints in our city. I’ve heard their coffee is pretty good, but that is not what they are known for. They are known for their baristas; baristas who wear nothing but bikinis. Every day as I drive home from the office, I can’t help but to notice their...

Is S&M the new normal? How do we as pastors talk about this in council?

Well... is it? It certainly is becoming more mainstream, normative in media and general cultural conversation. But is it a socially accepted genre or it is still a closeted vice that should stay there? As our culture progresses more and more liberally, you can expect S&M to become more commonplace, and therefore something...

Seriously. How could think for one second that the issue of compromise is an unworthy topic of conversation to discuss in an open format? What are you waiting for: some pastor to screw up so bad it taints the whole of Christendom? For church to get a bad name, or be called irrelevant because they won't talk about the gritty things in life? Really, what's the hold up?  

You're scared....

It's all the rage these days. Pastors who lead their church with showboating excellence, when behind the curtains there exists a fragile and broken leader; afraid to live out who they really are. Unable to confess their junk and be real with their staff, their elders; their congregations, they align themselves squarely in the corners of the Pharisees, the one group Jesus challenged more...