Shellie R. Warren

Shellie R. Warren is into all things covenant. Her first love of writing has afforded her the opportunity to write for well over 50 publications including the recent book release, "Purity's Big Payoff/Premarital Sex Is a Big Rip-off". Shellie has authored two published books: "Inside of Me: Lessons of Lust, Love and Redemption" ('04) and "Pure Heart: A Woman's Guide to Sexual Integrity" ('10). She is also the teen mom director for the local chapter of a national non-profit in Nashville, a premarital/marriage counselor and a doula. Shellie also has an online ministry. http://onfirefastmovement.blogspot.com/ is for single women who desire to be prepared for marital covenant. She recently developed a T-shirt line (PerezLinen) centering around these themes and is in the process of premiering "Reluctant Celebrities"---a (somewhat) atypical platform for modern-day discipleship.

You can contact Shellie at [email protected]

Shellie R. Warren

RecoveryRecovery is a word we throw around a lot on this site. It’s something that we read about but sometimes don’t fully understand. As someone who would consider myself to be in a continual state of porn and sexual (not necessarily in that order) recovery (because true recovery is a lasting process), the first thing that came to my mind was the definitions of it.

One is “to get back or regain...

Recently, I read a story that I’m still processing. It is a tale that has traveled internationally about a young woman who claims to have been a virgin, went to a club, got drunk and had sex only to discover months later that she was HIV-positive as a direct result. As if that were not tragic enough, due to how hurt and angry she was about her health diagnosis, she has been purposefully...

Can You Forgive Others?Something that God has afforded me the opportunity to do is marriage coaching. Yes, I’m single (eh hem like Christ and Paul, the two people who spoke the most on marriage in the Bible). However, I’m also someone who professed at the age of 12 that I was going to break the generational curse of divorce in my family. And when you’re a curse breaker, God tends to do some really radical things in...

It is Gloria Steinem who once said “Pornography is the instruction. Rape is the practice, battered women are the practice, and battered children are the practice.” I couldn’t help but to think about that as I read a story last month about a 13-year-old boy who raped his eight-year-old sister. Not because he was angry. Or malicious. Or a “bad boy”. It was because he had seen porn on his Xbox...

GraceAs someone who got my writing career started in entertainment, I tend to stay pretty aware of what’s going on in the world (and indeed, it is a world of its own); at least, in general. And so, when I read the news about Philip Seymour Hoffman dying of an overdose on Super Bowl Sunday, my heart sank a bit. I didn’t know him, but I was indeed a respecter of how seriously he took his acting...

porn is fake sexAlthough I’m aware of the fact that the theme for this month is recovery, there was a recent article I read that I felt had to be shared. It was featured in The Atlantic and the title of it was “How Sex Affects Intelligence, and Vice Versa”. The subtitle was “New research says sexual activity can grow brain cells. Keeping them may be another matter.” Here’s an excerpt:

“In April, a team from...

Non-Degrading PornFairly recently, I found myself having an interesting conversation with a young man in his 20's. Initially he was trying to “holla at me” but again…he’s a young man in his 20's. I’ll be 40 in June. Um, no thanks (LOL). Yet as I diverted his attention away from asking me for a date to simply getting to know one another, it came up what I did for a living.

When I got to the part about writing...

Seven Porn doesn't careyears into being a part of this ministry, I must say that there’s not much that surprises me when it comes to porn. But there are occasions when I’ll find myself reading something that has me saying “Wait…what?” simply because although we tend to talk about the sexual dysfunction of porn and the lust dangers in porn and the isolation that creeps in due to porn, I’m not sure if we talk...

CheatersNow this should be interesting (to read comments on). As someone who is a marriage life coach, I will agree with the reports which state that finances, poor communication skills and a lack of intimacy (or intimacy compatibility)---and honestly, it’s usually a combination of all three---are the biggest reasons for why so many marriages are in trouble.

Well actually, I’ll add one more:...

ResolutionsI don’t know about you, but I personally find it to be pretty fascinating, how much stock people put into making New Year’s Resolutions. It’s almost like they believe that at the stroke of midnight on New Year’s Eve, there is something magical that happens that will give them the power to leave all bad habits behind.

Personally, I liken it to the person who has strippers at their bachelor (or...