A couple of nights ago, I was talking to a male friend of mine. (Again single ladies, get some platonic male friends because they are lifesavers---and givers!) Anyway, we were talking about a recent event that we both attended where, for the first time since I can remember, I basically stayed up on the wall and watched the room move before me. It’s amazing how loud sounds, words,...

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I'm starting to think that I need to get on the public relations team for this guy because since getting his book into my little hands, I have been telling the world (well, OK, anyone who will listen) that they need to make it a very top priority to get the book.

The book? "Sacred Sex". The author? Tim Alan Gardner.

Now, let me just say on the front end that the book is...

“Talk to Wisdom as to a sister.
Treat Insight as your companion.
They'll be with you to fend off the Temptress—
that smooth-talking, honey-tongued Seductress…

Soon she has him eating out of her hand,
bewitched by her honeyed speech.
Before you know it, he's trotting behind her,
like a calf led to the butcher shop,
Like a stag lured into ambush
...

Q: I don't know if you are the one I should contact but I went on xxx looking for answers and picked a name...My name is Rachel, I am a mother of 3 boys. My oldest is 14, he has been looking at porn. We have xxx software but he forgot. I got the report. I thought I might throw up. This was yesterday. He didn't deny it. I am so angry. Furious. I want to scream and cry. I feel so helpless. There...

Hey Ya'll,

OK, I'm back with the Q&A. I know you must've thought I forgot, but to be honest, some of the comments have been in the tone of such dire straits that I had to pray about who to go with next. God led me to Derek. I pray that my response to him will also address some of the other concerns. If not, I'm sure you'll let me know. :-) Anyway, here we go.

Q: Well I have dealt...

Yes, yes, yes...

The sweet and in many ways (if you ask me) overly-commercialized holiday known as Valentine's Day---or for those without a Valentine, Singles Awareness Day---is upon us. This time tomorrow, someone somewhere will be receiving a diamond, a dozen roses or at the very least an e-card every hour on the hour (or so some stats predict).

Now, if you fall under the Singles...

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I know what you guys (and gals) must be thinking. Am I actually endorsing a reality show and worse yet, one that's on VH-1? (Because I must be honest with you, most of their programs are a sad, sad reflection of pop culture, today.)

Yep, I am.

Maybe it's the entertainment journalism-nosey side of me that lured me in. Maybe it's the fact that I shamelessly and unapologetically...

First of all, let me say "thanks" to everyone who has written in. I think I am going to like this "Q&A" format a lot more because I don't know about you, but for years, as I was battling with certain areas of my sexuality, I was getting lectured to and preached at (plenty), but no one was really answering my deepest questions and concerns. I feel comfortable speaking for everyone at X3Church...

DIRK'S STATEMENT:Is porn grounded in lust? yeah. News Flash! Men like sex. Women like attention. O.k. So maybe we should try giving to each other instead of just demanding what we want. Men, give some gentle attention to your wives. Women, give some hot, steamy sex to your men. The one thing that the women of porn provide is that they ALWAYS look like they WANT to have sex. Men like that....

I know, right?

It's been almost two months since I've penned anything in the Butterflies blog and yes, I've missed you. To be honest, there was just so much going on in the latter part of the year in my own life that I needed to take some time to get myself together.

You see, while I was sharing with you revelations about porn, sex, lust, love, relationships, and what I believe God...