For 90 days we have asked the question "Why Porn?"

It's a question that can be talked about for way longer than 90 days and hopefully it had you thinking thoughts about why someone can get caught up in this addiction, the people that are affected around addiction and how you or someone you care about can get help. If you'd like to go back to the past blogs they are HERE.

Now we are going to...

We love doing things ourselves. From a super early age we start to tell our parents "I can do it myself" or "Let me do it!" It starts as a natural response that bleeds over to everything we do. We don't like to need help - we like to be independent - we like to prove we can do it - we are applauded for independence. 

Recovery is the exact opposite. We get to admit we CANT do it on our own,...

What happens with Craig Gross @XXXChurch and WHY is talking about PORN addiction so important? The truth is there are a number of addictions in our world and they are all very dangerous. Pornography is lethal and has gripped a huge number of people. It can hurt directly and indirectly. So the XXXChurch.com web site is created to help lead people to sobriety with a pornography addiction. In...

A T-Shirt can be an easy thing to wear and an easy thing to communicate a simple message. When the message is complicated or hard to understand there can be confusion from wearing it. When the message is a direct communication of a controversial message there can be an quick backlash from people reading the message on the shirt. The shirt that we have right now says "Jesus loves Gay Porn...

“Just this one time won’t matter”

“They will never find out”

“I am not hurting anyone”

“What I do with myself is no one’s business”

“My spouse doesn’t do it for me”

“I can stop watching anytime I want”

“There is nothing wrong with it”

“It’s normal”

These were the lies I actually believed. These lies robbed me of having real relationships, and kept my mind and body imprisoned to porn. I...

Most remain hidden about their addictions. Most think no one has the same issues they do.

When you get honest and open about your addiction and seek help, you find out that there are so many people that struggle with the same thing and that they found hope that things could, and do, change. Have you ever thought it could just take you being open about YOUR struggle with a friend that helps...

If you didn’t catch it last week of what a typical day in my life looked like, you can see it HERE

I was looking at how much time I actually spent on porn in a day. Thinking about it, planning how to get it, covering it up and defending in my mind how I wasn’t hurting anyone in the middle of it. Making arguments with myself and with people around me that it was normal, I just had strong...

• 9 am - Wake up.
• 9:01 am - Wonder when my spouse will leave the house.
• 9:05-10 am - Do things around the house – encourage them to leave (need groceries, need errands done).
• 10 am - Spouse leaves.
• 10:01 am - 2 pm - Check that spouse is actually gone. Surf porn on TV – rotate between 5 channels to find what I like.
• 2-3 pm - Clean house fast, make it look like I was hard at work all...

Why is it hard to leave porn alone?

Once we look at it just that very first time we begin to look for it again and again. Why? It could be as simple as the chemicals that are released in our head or as complex as we want something that we can't have. We crave intimacy - and try to fill it with substitutes. A fake experience that we can hide behind instead of developing real...

Porn is something that wants to grabs people's attention. Face it - lots of things try to grab our attention, from the time we are really young until now. We look for things that we think will satisfy us, whether it be money, relationships, jobs, sex, power, a spouse, cars, house...

We look to people who seemingly have everything and when you look deeper they are still searching for something...