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Porn AddictIt was on the playground, during recess, when the Playboy bunny made a "visit" to my elementary school. A classmate of mine wanted to show me a picture of a naked lady. I was six years old. Little did I know that moment would forever effect the rest of my life.

That image never left my mind. To this day I can remember that picture, and even the emotions it triggered in my little innocent self....

crushed dreamsI have an uncommon--though unfortunately not unique--story when it comes to getting free from porn. It’s a story that’s hard to hear, but like all stories, it begs to be told and demands that lessons be learned from it.

I’ve struggled against porn addiction for pretty much all of my adult life. There have been times when I had a lot of victory over it, and there have been times when it dragged...

AdulteryHere’s a story for you: the monk Benedict would occasionally strip himself naked and throw his body into thorns and thistles in an attempt to dismiss himself of sexual passion.

Here’s another story: during the pornocracy from 904 A.D. to 962 A.D., the Pope would give favors to certain people if they paid him back with a sexual favor.

What do these two stories have in common? Both Benedict and...

Life without pornRecently, one of the guys in the X3group I lead said something very interesting during his check-in. He was describing one of the challenges he faced in pursuing sexual purity: Not knowing what life would be like without porn.



His statement left me virtually speechless. It was almost as if I stepped into a time machine and traveled back to the moment where I felt exactly that same...

Secrets and StoriesShame. It's one great obstacle that can arise when trying to overcome any type of struggle. Most people who have an addiction of one type or another usually know their habits are destructive but have yet to bring themselves to the point of actually dealing with the issue. This is complicated by having an issue with something like porn because, unlike drugs or alcohol or even gambling, it is so...

Instant PornI like things that are quick. Microwaves. Fast food. Immediate movie streaming online. Digital photos I can take on my phone and upload in seconds.

I also like making my life easier sometimes by paying other people to do the job, like the drive-through oil change, pizza delivery, or online bill paying.

Can sobriety and purity be instant, quick, and easy? Not exactly (Tweet This). You can't pay...

I still remember my first encounter with porn. I was somewhere between the age of 9 and 11, and since it was the 1970s, porn was not all too easily accessed. My introduction came through a magazine a buddy stole from his father, or maybe his older brother. Regardless, he wouldn't let me keep it, but he let me rip out any page I liked. I flipped through and there she was. Partially nude and...

Something DifferentThe precepts of the LORD are right,
giving joy to the heart!
The commands of the LORD are radiant,
giving light to the eyes!” - Psalm 19:8

Wow! I have been enraptured by this text lately. I want this to be my heartbeat. How often do we see following the path of God as giving joy to the heart? How often do we see his commands as radiant? I want to see Jesus in everything I do. I don’t want to...

perspective

As men, we're built with some strong inherent tendencies like accomplishing, achieving, and conquering all that is before us in life. Like a mighty warrior galloping into battle against enemy forces, we fix our eyes on one thing: complete and total victory. I believe we as men tend to live for conquering.

Now, meet the man who has dealt with a sexual addiction for years in his life. In his...

Tunnel visionI was middle a linebacker in high school. My job was not only to blow up running backs and quarterbacks, but also to know exactly where the play was going seconds after the ball was snapped.

And I was pretty good at good at it. The idea was to read the center--the player who snaps the ball--and the two linemen on both sides of him. If they went one way, I went the same way with the mindset of...