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integrityOne thing I find in short supply at times is, unfortunately, integrity. I think that’s part of the reason we value it so much when we find someone who actually displays it. It’s a breath of fresh air.

However, it’s one thing to know you might lack integrity in certain areas (like your sex life), but something else entirely to learn how to develop it.

Integrity is about more than just doing the...

stay away from pornPornography has little to do with sex and everything to do with fantasy. And if not confronted, this addiction to fantasy can become a consuming fire threatening all quality of life.

So before you go looking again for that woman on the screen, here are nine reasons to consider against it.

1. Porn makes you unhappy and bored.
Research says that those who regularly indulge themselves in...

boundariesWhen I began my recovery journey, I set a number of boundaries in my life. I went to bed when my wife went to bed; I wouldn’t stay in our apartment alone; I wouldn’t go online without a specific purpose. I made these concrete rules for living to avoid the situational triggers that led to my pursuing porn. 



These boundaries helped me succeed in my first year of recovery, but during year two,...

Real changeIn part 1, we looked at a deep-seeded reason many people have difficulty changing their bad habits for good. In this part, we’ll now look at some ways you can definitely find relief and real change.

See, for many people struggling with change, this is the prison we have locked ourselves into: the desire to stay psychologically connected to these important people in our lives. But there’s a...

real changeThroughout the years I’ve heard many stories from people who have talked about wanting to change. They’ve made commitments to stop using pornography, having anonymous sex, or masturbating. But for whatever reason – and there have been many – they haven’t been happy with their behavior. They’ve felt shame around it, it has interfered with other aspects of their lives, or it has simply left them...

liesSadly, most people—both men and women—don’t know what sex is today.                       

It was a fall day in third grade. I jumped off the bus and abided by my normal routine of climbing my next-door neighbor’s fence and knocking on the front door to join Jackson, my next door neighbor, in whatever nonsense he was getting into that day.

From the moment he opened the door, something about...

Get Pure EyesHey guys, I’m pretty excited to tell you that the publishers of the book Pure Eyes are running a promotion through Amazon and Barnes and Noble where you can download the e-book version of Pure Eyes completely FREE.

Just in case you don’t know, Pure Eyes is an amazing book that I co-wrote with my friend Steve Luff. You might remember Steve from our webinar 5 Proven Way to Overcome Pornography....

Perry NoblePornography isn’t that big of a deal….that’s what I used to think. 

How I Got Addicted to Porn

When I was 14 years old, my dad and I bought one of the first satellite dishes. It gave me access to hundreds of channels including pornography nearly any time I wanted to see it.

We didn’t keep the satellite dish forever—but it began my addiction. All throughout high school I purchased magazines and...

prostituteNearly every man trying to rid himself of pornography has tried more times than he can count to start fresh, vowing never to go back, only to find himself back in the throes of his struggle and wondering what went wrong. There is a vicious cycle that must be broken before any real change takes place. So what is the first step? We find the answer in a story of a prostitute and her husband, a...

porn usersOur efforts to become people of sexual purity can, at times, feel like a losing battle – especially as we see the number of people dealing with porn addiction  continue to rise. "Look at how much fun they're having!" we reason with ourselves. Getting your choice of having sex with any body type, age, and even gender you choose? That's freedom, right?



No. It's imprisonment.

And it's a...