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"For flavor, instant sex will never supersede the stuff you have to peel and cook." - Quentin Crisp
I think Quentin Crisp was really on to something when he made this statement. I mean, this really is the difference between pornography and a loving relationship in a nutshell. Pornography is instant gratification while relationships take time, effort, and investment. Of course, we do live...
It’s difficult to find a comedian nowadays whose routine isn’t riddled with sexual innuendoes. After all, jokes about sex are easy and widely relatable… right?
The comedian Groucho Marx fell into this category also. He was well known for the ridiculous – in both appearance and humor – and his jokes and one-liners often touched on the topic of sex, as this one does:
“I remember the first...
Is it porn you are struggling with, or is it yourself?
Legendary Pornstar Ron Jeremy provides the quote that inspired the above question. “You cannot blame porn.” Ron asserts, “When I was young, I used to masturbate to Gilligan’s Island.”
I must admit I discovered masturbation before I discovered porn. I did not need erotic images to teach me I had this thing between my legs, and it felt...
“Honey, I forgot to stop at the store and get milk.”
“Sweetheart, I know I have been trying to eat better, but I had two Big Macs for lunch
because they had a deal.”
“Ummm… when you were at work today, I spent 3 hours surfing porn and
masturbating.”
Which of the above scenarios would you be most afraid to tell your wife? Rather easy to say it would be the struggles with pornography. Addictions...
Good situations can go bad. About seven years ago I served as a youth minister and news broke of a pastor a couple miles from us had an affair with his secretary. People were shocked and the church was crushed. Even church people can get wrapped into something they don’t want to be a part of.
So much hate and hostility went on. I was talking with one of the pastor’s sons and weeks after this...
I recently had the privilege of hearing Christopher Yuan tell his story at Victory Church in Lancaster, PA. While attending dental school, Christopher began living promiscuously as a gay man and experimenting with illicit drugs. Within a few years, he was expelled from dental school, imprisoned for drug dealing, and discovered that he was HIV positive.
Prior to hearing him speak, my wife...
I can’t stop … I can’t stop … How will I ever stop? These are the thoughts that went through my head on a consistent basis before I found sobriety. I can’t count how many times in my life when I literally thought that freedom from pornography was impossible. I would try, and try, and try only to fall again, and again, and again. It was awful and so incredibly defeating. I constantly...
Ever had this feeling before? I know I have. The feeling that God isn’t answering your prayers. I’m certain that many, many of you have felt or do feel this way. As I was thinking about this, God put this thought in my head: often, the problem is us.
You see, we might be praying for help to overcome this addiction. We might be praying for strength to overcome the temptations when they come....
If there is one thing that is common among guys who struggle with porn usage it is the feeling that they cannot share their struggle with anyone … I mean anyone. Every guy I have ever talked to that is seeking recovery has felt this way at one time or another. The question is … why? Why can’t we tell people about our “dirty little secret?” The answer is … shame. Shame is an enemy that we...
In June of 1991, I was a mess.
I had barely been married a year and a half, and was binging on porn and masturbation at least once a day. Like most naïve young men I had thought that getting married would solve my lust problem, but the opposite happened. Six months after our wedding day, I fell off the cliff again.
The guilt and shame from being a married Christian and binging on porn got to...
