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I started masturbating at a very young age, I honestly don’t remember a time before it was in my life. At first I was just rubbing myself in an innocent way. I remember it felt good to touch myself that way and it was comforting. A few years later I have the memory of my dad sitting me down, telling me masturbation was a sin and not to do it. I didn’t know what masturbation was but I knew I...

A good friend can always be there for you.

Is that what porn can turn into?

Before you discount that statement, think about it.

What makes a friend?

In Toy Story there is a song titled “You Got a Friend In Me”, look at the lyrics…

You've got a friend in me
You've got a friend in me
If you've got troubles, I've got 'em too
There isn't anything I wouldn't do for you
We stick together and can see...

It’s true. Porn doesn’t make you stronger. It doesn’t make you more of a man or more of a woman. Some may think that they have the right to do as they please and to view porn and masturbate whenever they feel like it. But if it’s really ok and if it really makes you “more of a person,” why does every addict of it always do it in secret? Plus, the Bible says this:

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 NKJV: Or...

When I was first asked to write an opinion piece for this months blog on the topic of sex and porn addiction based on an internet article I was excited. I thought “man this will be easy”. I soon found there has been a lot written about this subject and it was difficult to find one article. I then found an article from www.psychologytoday.com on the dangers of internet porn and internet gaming...

In the 80’s there was a anti-drug commercial that said “This is your brain, this is your brain on drugs. Any questions?”   I’m going to kick it up a notch. “This is your brain, this is your brain on porn”. Our minds are amazing creations. They are a rolodex of memories and knowledge. The problem is we take better care of our MACs/PCs than we do with “natures computer”. We will download...

You Might Be A Sex Addict If…..

• …if you have traded a family heirloom for sex.
• …if you have traded you wedding ring for sex.
• …if you have stolen to get sex.
• …if you have lied to get sex.
• …if you spend more time looking at porn and masturbating than you do working.
• …if you said, “I will never do _XYZ_, and now you do _XYZ_ all the time.
• …if you have said, “I can quit any time I want to” but...

Earlier this month I wrote the article “How Do I Know if I Have a Sexual Addiction?”  In the article, I shared that your sexual behaviors have turned into an addiction when:

• You can’t stop.
• Your behaviors get worse.
• You need more of the behavior to feed your desire.
• Your behaviors are affecting your priorities, family, work and relationships.
• You turn to the behaviors to alter your mood or...

The honeymoon stage was officially over. My wife and I were married about five months when I was caught doing something a newlywed married person should not do. I was caught with porn.

My wife went to bed and I went into the computer room with the original intent of doing some college homework. What started out as looking at homework, turn to looking at porn. After a couple of minutes I turned...

I watch Internet porn all the time… but am I addicted?

I have sex with my girlfriend most of the times we go out… is that a sexual addiction?

I masturbate almost every day, but I feel bad about it… that wouldn’t be a sexual addiction, would it?

I’m not sure the diagnosis or the labeling of a “sexual addiction” is the very helpful.  What is important is:

• Do I realize I have a problem?
• Do I...

I’ve asked myself the question a lot lately, “What’s happening? Why is this issue of pornography and unhealthy sexual activity so prevalent today?”

I live in northern California and I am amazed that a week doesn’t go by where I don’t read a story on the news about a teacher, coach or counselor being charged with sexual conduct with a child. I’m sure all of you have heard something about Penn...