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Pornography at its most fundamental level has no basis in reality. It is nothing more than a fantasy that, in one form or another, negatively affects the lives of men. Porn influences how men think about, value, and ultimately treat women. It should come as no surprise, then, that men experience difficulty in their relationships and ability to interact with real women due to pornography...
Watching sports does not make you an All-Star at playing sports. I have played some form of hockey (Floor, roller and ice) since five. Watching hockey does not make you a great player, just like any sport. You can watch the New York Giants and still not be able to throw a football like Eli Manning. I once played a hockey game in a rec league. We had some people that never played organized...
Are you ready? This is going to shock you… You may think porn doesn’t affect you when it comes to dating. But what about your dates, how might it affect them?
I would hope that we can all agree that at the simplest level, dating is at least about spending time with someone you enjoy being with and hopefully having your conduct influence them in a positive way that they would like to spend more...
Insecurity: Subject to fears, doubts; not self-confident or assured… uneasy, anxious. Exposed or liable to risk, loss or danger. Not firmly or reliably placed or fastened. 1
For the Christian porn addict, insecurity is a relentless hound that never stops tracking him.
He lives in constant fear that someone might see him, or discover the tracks he has so carefully covered. His wife, kids, or...
Most of us have heard this question before. It was first asked (or at least made popular) in slightly different form by Shakespeare in his play As You Like It. The implied answer in this play from long ago was “Yes,” and believe it or not, that answer hasn’t changed.
I often wish the answer were different, especially considering my love for sweets like cheesecake, gummy bears, and ice...
Some of you are more courageous than me.
I never shared my sexual struggles. I isolated. I covered up. I hid. I guarded myself from getting too close to others. Even when I felt the conviction of the Holy Spirit over my sexual sin, I pushed Him away. I did not have the guts to come forward and seek help.
I thought I could handle my struggles. I thought I was strong enough to overcome...
If you want to overcome sexual addiction, just as with any other addiction, you must be proactive about it. Resources abound everywhere offering help. Jesus, prayer, people in church, ministries like xxxchurch, etc..
I use multiple things to resist the temptation of falling back into porn addiction. First and foremost, Jesus has to be your help. Matthew 19:26, speaking of who can be saved,...
In my prior two posts I addressed the two incorrect ideas that 1) sexual addiction (porn addiction) isn’t a big problem and, 2) that sexual addiction is something that can be tackled by one’s self. In this final post I want to address the issue of shame. Specifically, how can we address our addiction issues if we want to avoid the shame associated with them? If you are going to get serious...
In my last post I addressed the misconception that sexual addiction, particularly porn addiction, is not really a big deal. Today I want to talk about another common excuse that people have when it comes to not addressing their addiction issues, that being the idea that they can handle the problem themselves.
Maybe you have said or thought the following; “No need to drag in others … I’ll take...
In April XXXchurch & Connect Church of Cherry Hill in NJ are launching a sexual addiction recovery group in the South Jersey area. This cooperative project is coming together because the leadership at Connect correctly understands the gravity of the porndemic issue we face both inside and outside the church and sees this opportunity as a chance to deal directly with the problem. XXXchurch...
