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In October 2005, the church I was attending held a Porn Sunday event through XXXChurch. I sat there in complete denial, walled in by secrecy and shame. After the service, my wife looked at me and asked, “Have you ever struggled with that kind of stuff?”
My response was classic: “No, Honey. I’ve never been one of those guys.” Nine days later, I lost the office job I had at the time because I...
A few years ago I received a call from a local Saturday morning television talk show asking for my ideas on porn in culture. I had no idea that this conversation would quickly make the jump from the complete saturation of porn in culture to porn in the bedroom. Specifically, one anchor lady said, “Who cares if a couple watches porn in the bedroom. Everyone needs a little help sometimes.” True...
News item? I don’t think any man who is looking to overcome the porn addiction would say that this is news to them that porn has caused them to struggle sexually. And, it isn’t too surprising that you don’t read about that in the news. What do we read? Man Faces 80 Counts for Child Porn ---- Man Faces 43 Counts Involving Child Porn ------ Former Police Officer Arrested for Rape of 14 Year...
News item? I don’t think any man who is looking to overcome the porn addiction would say that this is news to them that porn has caused them to struggle sexually. And, it isn’t too surprising that you don’t read about that in the news. What do we read? Man Faces 80 Counts for Child Porn ---- Man Faces 43 Counts Involving Child Porn ------ Former Police Officer Arrested for Rape of 14 Year...
Def: Objectify –to treat as an object; devalue; not see the true value of the person
Learning to stop looking at women as sexual objects is a big milestone.
OBJECTIFICATION GOES TO THE CORE
Objectification goes deep for us guys. It’s a battle of the mind, heart, emotions, and spirit. It’s tied into the way we look at women and the way we value God and His creation....
Performance anxiety, something we as men face at least once in our lives. It can be caused by a large number of things, and I cannot speak for all men nor can I really speak medically, I know for me a lot of it was caused by one singular factor. I could not live up to what I had seen in porn.
Porn has formed our mindset of how sex should be performed. And this can cause us to face a reality...
Pornography at its most fundamental level has no basis in reality. It is nothing more than a fantasy that, in one form or another, negatively affects the lives of men. Porn influences how men think about, value, and ultimately treat women. It should come as no surprise, then, that men experience difficulty in their relationships and ability to interact with real women due to pornography...
Watching sports does not make you an All-Star at playing sports. I have played some form of hockey (Floor, roller and ice) since five. Watching hockey does not make you a great player, just like any sport. You can watch the New York Giants and still not be able to throw a football like Eli Manning. I once played a hockey game in a rec league. We had some people that never played organized...
Are you ready? This is going to shock you… You may think porn doesn’t affect you when it comes to dating. But what about your dates, how might it affect them?
I would hope that we can all agree that at the simplest level, dating is at least about spending time with someone you enjoy being with and hopefully having your conduct influence them in a positive way that they would like to spend more...
Insecurity: Subject to fears, doubts; not self-confident or assured… uneasy, anxious. Exposed or liable to risk, loss or danger. Not firmly or reliably placed or fastened. 1
For the Christian porn addict, insecurity is a relentless hound that never stops tracking him.
He lives in constant fear that someone might see him, or discover the tracks he has so carefully covered. His wife, kids, or...
