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Question: Does pornography’s connection with sex trafficking deter you from watching?

With the positive of hosting the Super Bowl comes the negative.

Living within an hour of Indianapolis for the Super Bowl, we got to experience and hear about some cool things happening in Indy, along with some negative.

While many amazing things were taking place in the city, there was an underground story...

While I’d never attempt to argue that having accountability is not valuable nor beneficial in the process of recovery and healing, I do believe that an accountability relationship is only as strong as its’ members, their contributions and a few defining characteristics of the relationship, and that in and of itself, accountability is not the only way for someone to experience victory.  

 Two...

Does going to Barely Legal sites make us more prone to act out with youth and children?

Yes.  Of course it does.

All of us say we would never touch a child.  We say we will never look at child porn.  But if we’re hanging around Barely Legal sites, we’re dangerously close to looking at child porn and closer than we think to acting out sexually with a minor.

Here’s why:

We Are Sexually Triggered...

Once I choose to come clean with my wife and others about my life long struggle with pornography I had to look at ways to help over come this addiction. Accountability was my first action and a smart move to make it number one right after I confessed what I was going through. The next decision for me was what tools would I use to figure out why I did what I did and how to retrain my brain and...

I’m assuming that the majority of you reading this are either here seeking some help or you know someone that needs help and you are trying to get some answers.

Any adventure for help and change begins with baby steps. What baby steps have you taken? Maybe you have taken some huge steps in faith. What have those steps been and how has it helped you in seeing some satisfaction in changing what...

This week, a story in the news caught my eye about a man who was arrested (initially) for walking around his workplace in the nude.  That's right - just when you think it’s another normal day at the office…

When I read the story, I had to wonder if that was actually this guy's plan for the day.  Did he wake up that morning and think to himself, "Today, I'll strut around the office in my...

When you view porn, it does things to you. And no, those aren’t good things. It encourages lust. It encourages impurity and immorality. I was beginning to get to a point where I wanted physical intimacy with my wife less. And I knew I was getting in too deep. Porn cuts off your emotion.

Men, we’re visual creatures. And as such, when we have any kind of immoral sex (including masturbation), our...

I want to share some practical ways you can get help with your sexual struggles. 

ONE EXTREME CAUTION
You can’t do this by yourself.  We sexual strugglers have a bad history of isolating – some of us for several decades.  We are in hiding and we’d like to manage this on our own.  You can’t.  Porn, masturbation, adultery, or any type of sexual sin is too big.   I am sharing some self-education...

Being someone who has been addicted pornography most of my adult life I have been through the process of emotional ups and downs. I have had to deal with feels of anger, depression, guilt, and shame. All of these emotions are normal for people but, they where intensified due to my behavior.

So many times during my addiction I battled my own self wanting to stop looking at this crap but, I just...

The upward journey might not always be worth the downward fall. Unlike my wife, I am not a huge fan of rollercoasters, especially ones with a big first hill. That drop freaks me out. To me the journey up the hill isn’t worth the fall. I can deal with the rest of the ride, the twist, turns and speed. I love that aspect of the rollercoaster, but it’s not worth the initial fall.

When we look at...