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Chew Toy

by Bernie on December 15 2008 in Pastors Blog | Comments

Well I'm going to move on from the Peter Cook story. I think we've pretty much covered that. There were some great comments and insights. Thanks to "Survivor" for sharing your story!

Like many young couples my wife and I lived in a small apartment for the first several years of our marriage. But it was that first year that became quite an ordeal because we decided that we needed a pet (since...

Peter Cook Pt. 2

by Bernie on November 17 2008 in Pastors Blog | Comments

Great comments from everyone! Thank you! I will attempt to respond to the questions over the next few days in a series of posts and give you my take on this. I really think Cook's story offers some powerful spiritual insights into sexual integrity and a man's heart. Here's my answer to question #1:

1. Do Christian guys get to indulge in porn because their wives don’t give them any...

The story of Christie Brinkley's ex, Peter Cook, has been all over the news and with his latest confession about being "lonely" and lacking "emotional support" from Christie a whole new round of news stories has surfaced. I wanted to take a look at some of what he’s been saying and how it gives us insight into a man’s heart. But I want to hear your responses before I give you my take on it. So...

Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill Church, Seatle, WA isn't one to beat around the bush and that's certainly the case with his latest booklet on porn and masturbation being released in an ebook via The Resurgence website www.theresurgence.org. I like Mark and while I don't agree with everything he says I find myself nodding in agreement with quite a bit of what he preaches and teaches. He certainly...

Absorbing the Blow

by Bernie on October 5 2008 in Pastors Blog | Comments

Over the last few weeks I've been offering counsel, and guidance to Christian couples whose marriages are falling apart because of porn. This isn't unusual it seems like at least 2 or 3 times a month someone calls or sends an email desperate for some guidance out of the chaos that porn has caused. In these cases it is the husband who has the porn problem. In one situation he is a pastor. In...

Owning the Bad Calls

by Bernie on September 26 2008 in Pastors Blog | Comments

Much has been made of the terrible call made by NFL official Ed Hochuli at a critical time in a game between the Denver Broncos and the San Diego Chargers. I was watching the game and it was a pretty obvious blown call by a veteran official who has one of the best reps in the business. Ed Hochuli is an attorney by profession which likely makes him a guy who is well aquainted with football...

CP80

by Bernie on September 12 2008 in Pastors Blog | Comments

I stumbled onto Ralph Yarro's site called CP80 a couple of years ago and since that time have followed their campaign to essentially make filtering tons more effective. You might want to take the time to check out the site at www.cp80.org

I sat down with Mark Kastlman and one of his associates last week. If you don't know who Mark Kastleman is he wrote the landmark book, The Drug of the New Millenium (it has recently been updated). Mark is not a neurologist or a neuroscientist but he has done extensive research into what impact pornography has on our minds. More importantly based upon his research he has now launched a new...

We’ve all seen the late night famine relief reports that come on TV often showing small children with flies hovering around them and bellies distended. There’s usually a relief worker there or a ministry leader desperately appealing for support and prayers. It is often difficult to watch the scenes especially the one’s that show children living in absolute squalor. You can’t help but be moved...

Vision and Listening

by Bernie on August 18 2008 in Pastors Blog | Comments

Well, I have to apologize for taking so long to post a new note. Things have been a bit hectic and we're going through some challenges both as a family and professionally. I would solicit your prayers for God's wisdom during this time.

I recently attended the Leadership Summit put on by Willow Creek Community Church. I decided I wanted to go and experience it live rather than attend one of...