Teens - Questions
I started watching porn not too long ago. When I was about 11 I used to look up certain things on YouTube. I did this for a while. Before this I struggled with addiction to masturbation. I wasn't sure what I was doing but I knew it wasn't right. Once this got mixed with what I watched on YouTube, I started doing both things more and more.
Eventually I started going to porn sites on my iPod, not finding anything wrong with it at the time. After months of doing it, I decided it had to stop. I decided it was an offence to god and I began praying every time I had the temptation. I would say things like: "Please lift the addiction. Please take away the temptation. Forgive me for my sins, etc." This wasn't working.
My issue is that my family is not very religious. I am the only one who has a connection with god and I feel that I have to keep this from my family, but that's a whole different story.
My question is: what should I tell God? What I'm saying isn't working. I'm not very experienced in prayer. I don't know what to say to him. If anyone can help me, please do. I would appreciate it.
Johnny,
You need to find someone who you can talk to about this. Do you have a church that you attend or go to that you can talk to someone there? Maybe a friend or a consulor at school. We can pray all the time to God to take this away and he will listen and provide ways out of this but, you have to look for His tools that he provides to help you and he will. I know it is hard but, you will need to bring someone or others in around you to help with this.
i am 15 years old and i really need help. its hard being a preacher's kid and then come home late at night watching porn..i try to stop but it's like my body starts shaking if i wait to long..it keeps from long hours of sleep and everything..please how can i stop.
Keisha,
I feel your pain here and can sense the tension around you. You need to talk to someone about this. If you keep running around in your life with this held in to your self you will only go deeper and find yourself entangled in a life that you do not want for yourself.
Find someone you know who you can sit down with a talk to about what you are going through. This can be a friend, mentor, or maybe as hard as it may seem, your parents.
You need to get accountability and you can do this with help from others, setting up a plan to stop, and getting filters and/or accountability software on your computer or mobile devices.
I know this will be tough and you may feel you can not do it. But I promise you if you do not do this you will have to one day and it will not be on your own terms and you will be even further down the road with this. To do it your way on your own terms is so much better than getting caught.
Know that you are not alone in this and that we are praying for you. Also know that know matter what you have done God still loves you and wnats so much for you to run far away from this junk.
So, in reality, is the problem here the act of masturbation itself? Is that really wrong? Or is the problem becoming overly involved with dangerous activites around pornography and the sex trade?
We have had literally thousands of emails about this particular issue. We have heard all the scenarios. "Well if I think about fruit while I'm masturbating, then that is not a sin." Well isn't that clever. Or..."If I'm giving glory to the Lord while I'm doing it, then that can't be wrong." Hmmm. Why don't we just make that part of our Sunday morning services then? We have heard all the Pro-masturbation Christian arguments and we wonder if these people are dealing in reality. It's all very intellectual and quite scholarly, but we still don't get it. Sorry.
Our stance is simply this: you want to live a life that is honoring to God then start pleasing him and stop pleasing yourself. Stop making excuses and get some control over your life. Yes, it is tough. Yes, we know hormones are raging. However, God is calling us to holiness. Live an extraordinary life. Masturbation will leave you hanging every time! It is a selfish act that pleases no one but YOU. God created sex to be between a man and his wife. Not a man and his girlfriend and not a man or woman with himself or herself.
I m being badly affected by the Pronography... i cant fulfill my calling Bcoz of this.. it makes me Impure.I cant feel the Presence of God ... Many prob get in. Please help me to get out of this please i beg u... i unable to fight or tell to someone regarding this.. Please..
The thing is with this type of sin you need to talk to someone about it. This si fills you with the feeling of guilt and shame that is tough to work past but, you have to. You need to bring someone you know on board with this and get accountability right away.
You need to set up boundries, get online accountability with X3 Watch, and develope a plan with your accountability partner.
This person can be someone from your church, church staff, family member, or a friend. But you need to find some one who will hold you accountable and be willing to fight for you.
My son has asked me to sign him up for help. So here I am Do youknow where I would start? Camp, counselor, here , what not sure. He has asbergers and is very high functioning also asthma pretty bad, please help . Thank you for any info.
Can you please email me at info@xxxchurch.com? for some reason your question came in really scrambled. Thank You Brian
is it natural to mastibate or is just wrong
We feel that masturbation is not what God intended sex to be. Sex is to be between a married man & women. Also I still do not know of any guy out there who can masturbate with out having lustful thoughts and this is a sin.
I have a question . I do not know if God allows man to read erotica. I also like to know of bible verse that agree or disagree
Our view for this is that it is a form of pornography if you are attracted to it with lust. This is just what we call training wheels for porn. I highly doubt that a young man would be able to read something like this without having lustful thoughts and that is all over the bible.
I've was free from porn addiction for a 8 months. But lately i have been falling back into my addiction. I feel guilty and i gave no idea what to. What should I do?
David,
Have you spoken to anyone about this? Did you have and do you know have accountabilty for this. So many times people thnk they can just tackle this on their own and beat it; you will not do it.
I would talk to someone and find yourself accountability for this. YOu need to find someone that you will see often so that they can ask you how you are doing and hold your feet to the fire of purity.
Get accountability software on your computer if you do not already.
I want to stop looking at porn, but I work with computers, so any kind of web-blocking software is EASILY bypassed. What would be your advice? I need to cut the porn, but I can't not use the internet/computers/iphone etc and accountability software doesn't work for me. Help!
John,
The best thing to do is to want to stop. It sounds like you are going to keep at it because you know of a way all the time.
The best thing is to be honest and have accountability with some one you know and will see often. Use the accountability software and do not take it off. If you have a strong accountability partner they will hold you to it.
You have to want to stop this or you will not.
hello i have been struggling with my porn addiction for about 4 years and also a masturbation problem i dont know what to do and its always making me feel bad after i watch/masturbate to porn. i dont feel comfortable telling anyone so i cant really use x3 watch. i hate temptation and i just cant stop. i always get fustrated knowing that i do all this. i need this badly and i just want to stop before i get babtized which will be in a while. i want to know that the lord will keep me away from all this.
Juan,
You have to tell someone, you will not beat this on your own. I know that it is hard to do and it feels bad but, it is the right thing to do and God wants you to do this.
You need to talk to someone and get accountability with this. It can be a friend, family member, pastor, or someone from your church. But, you need to get accountability and bring someone in this fight with you.
I promise that if you choose to keep goign at it alone you will not beat this.
