Teens - Questions
How do I quit? I've been trying for 2 months now and I usually start off strong, and then I struggle cause I just get these sudden urges to go watch porn and masturbate, it's just getting worse now. I know it's wrong and want to stop but need help any advice?
The best way for you to stop...the ONLY way for you to stop is to get accountability. You have to tell someone. The only way to beat this in your life is to find someone you can get brutally honest with about this stuff. Go to x3watch.com and download the free software. It will change your life.
Hi-
My name is Jon and I've been struggling with a porn addiction for several years now. I feel guilty after every time that I view porn, but then I just continue to do it later. I've never been on this site before, so I don't know if this is the kind of question you guys look for, but I wasn't able to download that accountability thing. I was wondering if maybe you have any ideas for what I can do to overcome this problem. I would really appreciate your help. Thanks.
-Jon Booth
Accountability is the key. Find someone that will call you out and help you change. Take some practical steps in your life to get rid of this stuff. Check out the TEENS section of the site for more helpful information.
What about masturbation? I can get rid of my computer and lets just say I will never again "look" at porn weather on the internet or tv or magazine or whatever. But I still want it. I still desire it. And I can still fantasize in my head and masturbate. So even though "porn" might be out of my life, lust and sexual immorality is not. What about that?
God designed sex to be between a man and his wife. Not a man and his girlfriend and not a man and himself. It is selfish with or without porn. Get someone in your life that you can talk to about that and get some accountabilty.
Exactly how much porn is unhealthy? Is it only unhealthy if you are actually masturbating or...
So, does porn make you unholy? If I were to get an enema with holy water would that help any? I know people that do that.
What if I were to watch pope porn?
There’s no such thing as “Please watch porn responsibly.” No, they offer you the thirty free minutes and hook to get you back in for more. There’s no surgeon general’s warning on porn ads on the Web. You don’t see disclaimers reading that excessive porn use can cause desensitization and skewed views of healthy sexual relationships. You see words like “Hot virginal sluts” or “Collegiate bares all.” Porn is all or nothing and they want everything. If we could compare porn with something, then it would be to cigarette smoking or drug use. Whereas cigarettes turn your lungs into black husks, porn gets inside the brain like a parasite.
“I only watch softcore.” “I only go to the websites once every two weeks.” The argument comes up that porn in moderation is okay and, in fact, that it can even be good for you. Many compare it to alcohol consumption. Drinking alcohol can be healthy in moderation, and I’m not going to argue that fact. But I will say that porn cannot be done in moderation.
Hey, um sorry i would type my name but im scared my bro will read this or my sis. Okay, so I'm from a group of guys who have talked about this in and out of our bible study since our grade 12 year in 07-08 and a little bit after. I'm kinda the only guy who is ever willing so say hey, I'll call him "Fred", how u doing with porn. But I'm only willing to ask these friends and start the conversation when i myself am doing good in not masturbating or watching porn. Which is rare!!! So I feel like i need the support that i show to my friends but i dont get it. And i know if i could talk with them then it would get the our hidden issues out in the open where they could just become plain issues rather than secret depressing shames. And my porn addiction is based on distracting myself from the insecurities that i have and the loss of my ex-girlfriend so my addiction is more a pivital part of how i live. But I guess now that my situation is kinda explained, my question is... Do u think I can really help these guys out when i still have to help myself and also should i tell them that i want help and if they need it i want to but i need them to keep talking with me about it cause it's a huge deal to me???? AAAA!!!! screw it. I'm Joseph. Thanx.
Yes, you can help the other guys out. And we understand your frustrations.
If you are keeping others accountable your too need solid, legit accountability in your life. Possibly find someone who is older that can hold you to not looking at porn. You have to hold yourself to the same standards as those you are helping.
Continue to be there for your guys but seek out strong accountability in your life as well.
Is Masturbation a sin? I feel like I'm killing life when I do it. But I still can't stop. I want to. But I can't... I tell God that I'm sorry every time I do it. And I ask him for his forgiveness each and everytime. And I tell him that I WON'T do it again. But I do. I HATE DOING THIS!!! And I know God will forgive me each and evertime I do it. But I still feel really bad. How much do you think that hurts him? I would think it hurts him A LOT!
I don't get it. I did so well for about 8 months not to do it. But now I'm just back into masturbation again. And I wanna stop it befor I get to deep back into this sinfull stuff again.
Please Help:
Jay...
Our stance is simply this: you want to live a life that is honoring to God then start pleasing him and stop pleasing yourself. Stop making excuses and get some control over your life. Yes, it is tough. Yes, we know hormones are raging. However, God is calling us to holiness. Live an extraordinary life. Masturbation will leave you hanging every time!
Action Steps >>> 1) find an accountability partner (you cannot do this alone) 2) take practical steps in your life to stay away (see other question on this page for examples of steps)
Is there anything really practical I can do to help my masturbation addiction?
Yes, totally!
1) Sleep with your door open
2) Take a cold shower
3) Go for a run
4) Go to bed at the same time as everyone else in your house.
5) Memorize some Bible passages to go over in your head in those moments, try 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
6) Replace the time in which you struggle with time fillers - such as doing the dishes, video games, reading or chasing your dog. We usually struggle when we are tired, bored or late at night.
I have a very unique situation. I don't struggle with internet porn or any kind of porn. I never willingly see anything of that. But there is a specific habit I can't quit. Where can I get an accountability partner to report to?
We always recommend finding an accountability partner that you are close with in your own life, such as a pastor, close friend or youth leader.
The internet is a disconnected environment and that is why face to face accountability is always the best.
If that is not possible in your life, you may look into the prayer wall on XXXchurch for support. Or possibly find a local group.
