The Haps

Are You ConnectedRecently I did a talk at TedX Malibu. You can watch it here.

In that talk I touched on something that I think is vitally important and also incredibly lacking in our culture … connection. I’ve said this before but I believe it to be so true; we live in the most connected age ever yet we are probably the most disconnected group of people ever. You see, things like social media and even porn fill...

See-Through Life

by Craig Gross on April 8 2014 in The Haps | Comments

****Youth leaders skip to the bottom for a crazy deal.

Today’s students face so many temptations, so many opportunities, so many possible ways to follow the road to future success. However, down the road awaits just as many possible ways to derail those plans by messing up. We know that youth ministries can make a difference in leading young people toward a lifestyle of accountability. And...

If you had asked me when I was teenager if I wanted to be a pastor when I “grew up” I most likely would have laughed and said something on the order of “[Insert explicative] no.” I mean the idea would have seemed ridiculous to me. Of course, equally ridiculous would have been the notion that my frequent viewing of pornogrpahy had started me down the path of a nearly twenty year porn...

8 reasons my wife wont have sexFor some reason, we live in a world where it seems like the stereotype for married people and sex is that men need it and women don’t want to cough it up. I don’t know how that happened, but in my marriage, sex is a two-way street. It takes both of you to make it work and it is mutually beneficial for both parities.

I hear women hold sex over a lot of men’s head and I just laugh. Just because...

I’m a huge football fan. I guess I just love watching sports that I know I never could play. This past year I won our staff/friends Fantasy Football league and one guy that helped me do that was Josh McCown.

Josh has been a friend of mine for many years and I have watched him on the sidelines, on the field, and at home with his family. One thing that stands out about this guy is his genuine...

Your Story

 

How did you enjoy last month's theme “Grace, Forgiveness, And How We Don’t Understand Them?” We all need more grace and forgiveness in our lives so I hope last month’s blogs were helpful and just what you needed. I also hope you continue to hang with us next month where our theme is “Storytelling.”

Every person we meet has a story. Whether it be …

  • The porn star who found Jesus
  • The man...

GraceHave you ever received an apology note or letter from someone? How did it make you feel? Was it easier to extend that person forgiveness and grace because you recognized the effort they took in writing that letter?

Of course we shouldn’t decide whom we extend grace to based upon effort. After all, that’s not true grace. True grace is given regardless of merit. However, if we are to be honest...

X3watchMaybe you don’t know this, but YES, we do still have a free version of X3watch software for accountability! And YES, it’s free on on Android & iOS devices as well! However, you might want to think about upgrading to our Premium version anyway. It offers so many great new additional features. Please take a peek at the side-by-side comparison of our two offerings here.

For those of you who want...

Rewire Your BrainWhether you’re trying to learn how to hit a curve ball, dribble with your left hand or fade a 7 iron, it takes practice, patience, commitment and time. The same is true for achieving a lasting and meaningful recovery from sexual addiction.

If your history of using sex to medicate your feelings of unworthiness started over 35 years ago then you are not going to rewire your body and brain back...

X3groupsIn 2012 we started something new. It was called X3groups. For those of you who may not know, X3groups is our online accountability and support group program. When we started this program we weren’t sure if it would take off or not but we knew one thing. People who struggle with porn need support and accountability. What started out with three test groups and twelve participants has grown into...