The Haps

Great SexLast week I wrote a blog that was called 7 Keys To Great Sex (if you missed it go ahead and read that one first). I heard from a number of people and even talked about some of the reactions that the post got on my podcast “Craig’s Car Ride.”

One thing I noticed is: when you talk about sex, it gets a big reaction. (Tweet This!) Some good and some bad, and while I totally understand this is a...

Shaunti WebinarThis week we’ve been talking great sex. Well, more specifically, great sex in marriage. If you haven’t seen my latest post, check it out now. I really believe the seven things I share with you are going to help your sex life with your spouse immensely.

That being said, if a great marriage were only about great sex then things would be simple (Tweet This!). However, we know that great sex is...

Great SexMy wife Jeanette and I and our friends Dave and Ashley Willis are working on a brand-new video series called “Best Sex Life Now,” which you’ll see very soon. After 16 years of marriage, I’m more passionate about this than ever: married folks need to be having sex… and great sex at that! (Tweet This!) So here are seven keys to help you unlock that great sex life.

#1 Twice a week. Practice makes...

porn problemAs someone who happens to get a significant amount of emails sent to XXXchurch forwarded my way, I can personally vouch for the fact that young women are battling with porn more than ever. (Tweet This!) In fact, it might surprise you that most of the people I hear from are either married women or girls who are still virgins.

Perhaps we’ll get into why so many married women are watching porn at...

Bouncing My EyesNot too long ago, Steven Luff wrote about the concept of “bouncing” one’s eyes. I think Steven and I would agree that why we do what we do is more important than what we’re doing. But sometimes behaviors are so destructive that we must first approach the what. 

For instance, for many of you reading this, if you want to keep your relationship, you need to stop doing what you are doing. But I am...

women into pornBack in the (what I call) “Little House on the Prairie” days, it was a goal for men to get married. Not only did it mark the sign of manhood, but also the time when they could actually "get some." However, thanks to women having, let’s say a different set of standards when it comes to sex and also “thanks” to porn, marriage isn’t that much of a priority anymore.

And you know what? Also due to...

Bouncing My EyesLet me begin by saying I really liked Steven Luff’s post from a few days ago, particularly his idea of Real Change and how a life that relies solely on behavioral techniques like bouncing one’s eyes is not dealing with root causes.

I also like how he says that bouncing eyes can be a way of establishing new thought patterns and giving your brain the space it needs, free from habitual lust, to...

don't clickSo the news broke this past weekend that some odious hacker apparently broke into the cloud storage of many female celebrities’ phones, downloaded private nude images of those women, and then posted all of the photos online for anyone to view. 

The fallout has been swift and has led to many conversations within popular media about the limits of online security (it’s not that great), the ways...

Bouncing Your EyesI guess it was Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (writing in their book Every Man’s Battle) who coined the phrase “bounce your eyes,” written in reference to the practice of quickly looking away when you see an attractive person and don’t want to be triggered to act out sexually.

Initially, this term didn’t come to me via Arterburn and Stoeker; I first caught wind of it through the thick cloud...

cheatedEarlier this week, Craig wrote about the hard question: “Should I stay or should I go?” 

But what if you aren’t the one asking that question? What if you’re the spouse who cheated and brought the question into your marriage? 

That, unfortunately, is my story.

I hid my porn addiction from my wife for the majority of our marriage. When I finally did confess it to her, it was like a bomb went off...