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Bouncing Your EyesI guess it was Steve Arterburn and Fred Stoeker (writing in their book Every Man’s Battle) who coined the phrase “bounce your eyes,” written in reference to the practice of quickly looking away when you see an attractive person and don’t want to be triggered to act out sexually.

Initially, this term didn’t come to me via Arterburn and Stoeker; I first caught wind of it through the thick cloud...

cheatedEarlier this week, Craig wrote about the hard question: “Should I stay or should I go?” 

But what if you aren’t the one asking that question? What if you’re the spouse who cheated and brought the question into your marriage? 

That, unfortunately, is my story.

I hid my porn addiction from my wife for the majority of our marriage. When I finally did confess it to her, it was like a bomb went off...

Spouse CheatedMost of you who know me know I am a sucker for bad TV, TMZ, and yes, ESPN. I even got sucked into the show True Tori earlier this year and wrote a blog about it here.

This question in the title of this blog is a tough one. I think every marriage is different, and the ways each one of us are able to handle these types of large questions – especially when our marriages have deteriorated to the...

teenager making pornPicture this scene: I’ve just given a talk about kids and porn and now a small line of parents forms at the front of the small auditorium. Some people want to shake my hand and say thank you while others have a follow-up question or merely want to get the last word.

You know, the norm.

As the room clears out, I notice a mom nervously hanging around the edges of the group. Before long the tech...

giftsI love being a Dad. 

It’s one of the hardest job I’ve ever had, but despite the diapers, tantrums, spills, stains, arguments, and backtalk, I wouldn’t trade it for the world! I love my kids more than I can describe in words, and I recognize that they are a gift from God. They bring me joy each new day, and raising them is one of the most sacred duties that could ever be entrusted to me.

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PerfectAs I read Seth’s blog on Sunday one line stood out to me in a powerful way. The words that his therapist spoke to him:

You’re not a bad person Seth.”

It stood out because immediately it reminded me of the famous line uttered over and over by Robin Williams to Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting:

It’s not your fault.”

It’s strange how the world works. We can find incredible joy in the smallest...

guiltI sat across from the small, kind, man with the aged brown skin and the silver ponytail, pouring my heart out about all my issues surrounding porn addiction and depression and anxiety, and he did what most therapists do well: listened.

But then he did something most therapists don’t: he shook his head.

I paused and asked, “What?

You Christians,” he said. “So much guilt and shame. It’s the...

Porn and VirginityCraig wrote about Technical Virginity earlier in the week which you can read here.

Given the choice between porn addiction and losing your virginity, which is better? (Tweet This!)

Let me start by saying I can’t envision any good way to be addicted to porn because, like all addictions, it leads to unhealthy, compulsive behavior that gets in the way of an abundant, God-honoring life. I can’t...

Yesterday we launched episode #1 of our NEW podcast Craig’s Car Ride. You can read more about what this podcast series is all about here

Our guests were Rachel “Superstar” Ceballos and XXXchurch blogger Seth Taylor. 

We talked about a lot of great stuff but mostly focused on the statement that “Jesus Loves Porn Stars.” 

Honestly, we weren’t planning on doing this episode but after all the...

Grace... Ya GRACE

by Seth Taylor on August 4 2014 in The Haps | Comments

Earlier Today,  Craig Gross posted this blog and this youtube video.

My name name is Seth Taylor. You don't know me and that is okay. I am working on something new that you will hear about later.  Craig asked me to share my thoughts on this conversation because if you haven't seen what has happened on Facebook... you need too.

There is this ever present conundrum in Christian theology - how...