The Haps

raising awarenessHey everybody, it’s the last day of May and the unofficial beginning of summer for many. This last month was super busy with an outreach in Florida, two new videos, special guest bloggers, and a FREE webinar for husbands and wives. I hope you had time to keep up.

This month we are going to be focusing on something that really lies at the heart of XXXchurch’s vision … raising awareness.

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OpenAt XXXchurch.com we talk about the idea of being “open” a lot. Often we refer to this as the practice of accountability. The thought of being accountable to someone can be very scary. It can almost seem oppressive. But the truth is that being open or accountable can be one of the most freeing things you'll ever do for yourself.

In my recent book Open: What Happens When You Get Real, Get...

True ToriSo I’ve been watching True Tori on Lifetime. I don’t actually know why, but then again I am a sucker for TMZ, so maybe this kind of stuff is just in my DNA. Regardless, this reality show about the repercussions of an extramarital affair has been hard to watch for a number reasons, especially because lately I’ve been seeing some of these exact situations played out by a number of people...

Here's another video we shot last year when we participated in the Fight the Silence Tour with several great bands and Levi the Poet.

We set up a video confession booth for those who wanted to talk about their struggles with pornography.  We didn't know what to expect but the whole thing turned out great and we heard from tons of people who reached out to us by using this booth.  You can check...

horny boys sexy girlsRecently I read a great article in USA Today on the “right” to wear yoga pants. Mind you the article was specifically dealing with the rights of a female middle schooler.

Anyway, the article recounts a heated debate that occurred between the the administration of Haven Middle School and a group of “feminists” when the school decided to implement a policy that required female students wearing...

craig and jakeI just finished playing tennis today. I haven’t played for years but I used to play every day when I was younger. I started playing tennis with a guy named Jake Larson when we were in high school; soon we started hanging out more and more and eventually our youth pastor Tom Ramsay started meeting with both of us together before school and taught us what it meant to follow Jesus. Jake and I,...

5 ways to wreck your marriageI’ve interacted with thousands of couples from all over the world, and one alarming trend I’ve noticed is a decline of intimacy in many marriages. It usually doesn’t happen all at once. There seem to be some subtle, stealthy “intimacy killers” that can creep their way into a marriage. Over time, couples may realize they aren’t where they used to be but don’t seem to know how to start getting...

Meet Mardye McDoye also known as Mardye Mar. Recently Mardye approached us with a new song and video he released called “Porn.” Relatively straightforward name but it got my attention.

It turns out that Mardye has a pretty interesting story. Like many young men he got caught up with porn at a very young age. Seven to be exact. Mardye told me that his porn use increased over the years and in...

Have you ever wished that you could experience more intimacy in your marriage? I have at times. I think we all have at some point in our lives.

One of the biggest aids in building and maintaining marital intimacy is learning how to communicate better with our partners. Good, transparent, and clear communication is something that we all need to have in our marriages and the better we...

Here’s a fact. Women struggle with porn too. In fact, estimates say that roughly 18-20% of women struggle with porn. That’s 1 out of 5.

That’s not insignificant.

Here’s another fact. There are far fewer resources for women that struggle with porn than for their male counterparts.

Add to this the negative stigma associated with porn use (especially for women) and you now have a pretty bad...