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Recently the Huffington Post put out a list of the top ten most notorious teacher sex scandals of 2013. They referred to this list as the “Dishonor Roll” (catchy, right?). You can check out the entire article here. While I suppose that 10 sex scandals in an entire year out of all the teachers in the United States isn’t really that big of a number statistically, it still surprises me that...

Take the 30 Day ChallengeSo it’s the start of a new year and maybe you are hoping that 2014 will be the year you finally quit watching porn. Maybe you are tired of the defeat, the discouragement, the shame, the hopelessness, and all that comes along with pornography use. Just maybe you are ready to do whatever it takes to get completely and forever free of your addiction. Of course if that’s you then the question is,...

I met Donny Pauling years ago.  He was a  porn producer for 9 years, contracting with Playboy and a group of other well known companies.  When Donny decided to commit his life to Christ I was one of the first guys he called. We are fortunate to have had the opportunity to journey with Donny down this new season of his life.

A few years later Donny hit some bumps in the road and we lost...

New Year's ResolutionsI hope you had a great December and a great Christmas! I also hope you enjoyed last month’s blogs.

How was 2013 for you? Are you ready for a new year? We are! In fact we are believing that 2014 will be our most exciting year ever! Of course we need to keep dreaming big for this to happen. Dreaming big has its risks and it costs something. That's why we need your help with some of this.

I want...

The Science of Porn

by Craig Gross on December 29 2013 in The Haps | Comments

One of the common things that gets debated when it comes to pornography use is its "addictive" nature. Is porn really addictive in the clinical sense of the word?  Does porn really damage or change the user's brain or is that notion just an example of weak science?

Before you answer those questions remember that alcoholism wasn't recognized as a disease of the brain by the American Medial...

Steps To Freedom

by Craig Gross on December 25 2013 in The Haps | Comments

Secrets are powerful. Secrets wrapped around pornography are even more powerful. Do you have any secrets?

Here are how secrets work:

Secrets lead to shame, shame leads to hiding, hiding leads to loneliness, loneliness leads to helplessness, and helplessness leads to quitting the fight.

Don’t quit. You can beat porn but you can’t do it alone. It’s always a click away and because of this you...

Have you been following the Porn Kills Tour?  If so, you know who Dave is.  If not, here's a good time to start.  Find out who Dave is and why it might not be a great idea for him to join you on a road trip unless you like being stranded on the side of the road.  We all love you Dave.

Here's Porn Kills Episode #12 - Dave Was Wrong.

Here's another great video from our archives.  This video was shot by a good friend of ours and is entirely true.  What you'll see is a first hand account of what Joseph thought and went through the day he almost decided to take his life.  You see, porn addiction for many is a joke.  It's something that is seen as normal and even for some healthy.  However, we know porn is damaging and often...


by Craig Gross on December 16 2013 in The Haps | Comments

Have you checked out the Letters section of our site lately?  We regularly get some very powerful letters people write to their sexually addicted self and from their sexually addicted self.  What this exercise does is allow you to play out the battle between flesh and spirit on paper (or on the computer screen in most cases).

Why is this important?  Because, the struggle to maintain purity is...

For more than 12 years now, has been the largest and most comprehensive website on the issues of pornography and sex addiction. We specialize in starting conversations that most would rather avoid and in going places that make most folks uncomfortable. We’ve never been afraid of talking about the taboo. 





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So here it goes. 



Here’s why: In 2004 we...