XXXChurch: Womens Blog
If my pen name sounds a bit bitter, I suppose part of that is still some deep seated anger within my situation, while the other half is a true desire to nail it, so to speak, in its coffin. I’m an ordinary gal who stumbled on the reality of why she had been “put away,” as the bible puts it, by her husband. This 40-year-old woman has been put away since she was 29. I’m still put away. Go...
It never fails...
At least once per week, partially because I work with teenagers in the area of sexual/emotional/relational brokenness, I will hear an adult say, almost condescendingly so, "I don't know what's going on with these youth today."
Now, while I'm *hardly* youth, for some reason, again, partially because I work with teens, I find myself getting really irritated because being that...
Yeah. Well...
It's been interesting. The two *extremely different* things that have been sent to be over the course of just a few days.
First up: OK, I honestly don't know where I've been that I wasn't aware of the whole "Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby" website, but when someone sent me the Huffington Post article/update on it last month (re: the colleges with the largest amount of "sugar babies" on...
I’m no advocate of arranged marriages, but one advantage I can see in someone else – parents, larger family or even a traditional matchmaker – making the decision of who will be your lifelong mate is that less heart than head goes into it, and libido stays completely out it. Second to squandering our sexual purity, I think the biggest mistake most Americans make in selecting a mate is failing...
I get a lot of emails...
A couple of weeks ago, I received one in particular from an old college peer of mine. The backdrop is that he's a Christian, an author (on relationships) and in a relationship with someone that he believes he will marry someday (it will be his second time). Here is an excerpt of what the email said:
"Take a little advice from me...at this point, make sure to continue...
So, earlier today...
I was reading an article on Salon.com entitled, "The Joy of Judgmental Christian Sex". Yeah. I know, right? HERE. WE. GO. AGAIN.
It was talking about two relatively new books, one that I actually think I've referenced in one of these blogs before: "Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse". Anyway, as I'm sure you can tell from the title of piece, it wasn't...
“Sure! I’ll tell her about my porn addiction! Sounds great!”
Not.
“P…p…p-o-r-n? Umm…yea, some guys look at that stuff…but ummm…”
That’s more like it, right?
I know all about the shame. The worry that the computer will freeze when she comes around the corner. The fear that you won’t hear them coming down the stairs. I remember. What about not being able to look an extremely attractive girl...
A good read, if you haven't checked it out...
Especially if you're in church leadership is "The Emotionally Healthy Church". And personally, the fact that the authors of this read know that this should be a *priority* in a/the Church is *highly-impressive* to me. The Church is often referred to as being a spiritual family and yes, for spiritual brothers and sisters to thrive, emotions do need...
OK...
Where have *I* been that I missed that the "Day of Purity" is on Valentine's Day (or as the website adds "or the previous weekday")? It was actually while doing my daily news perusing, that I happened upon the informaton while reading a story with the title, "The Purity Bear Will Cockblock You Until You're Married". Yeah. The title alone caused me for pause. (LOL)
Now let me start by...
In February of 2010, I was at a crossroads in my life. I was 28, reaffirming my faith and relationship with God and coming to terms with my past. I had decided to put dating on the shelf, get my life in order, and wait on God to do the rest…and He did. Bryan was everything I never thought I deserved. He was kind, loving, protective, understanding, and most importantly, real. We met for...
