XXXChurch: Spouses Blog

My name is Leah and my husband is a recovering porn addict.

I feel embarrassed when I say that. For a lot of reasons. I think mainstream society still doesn't get how serious and damaging porn is to all parties involved and how serious a problem it is. I mean, a guy's first Playboy is still a rite of passage. In some ways, I think it would be easier if my hubs was a recovering drug or...

I can honestly say I have never seen porn.  I have met Ron Jeremy, but I have NEVER seen any of his films.  I was raised by a dad who would turn his head and tell us to change the channel if someone inappropriately dressed came on the screen.  I had 3 sisters and my Dad would do anything to protect his girls. He knows the value of women. 

So I meet and marry this man who has an addiction...

There and Back Again: An Addict's Tale

By Gavin & Kristina Croft

A fatal wound, it was the day she died. Her love died. Her assumptions died and her trust died. Her relationship died. Her ability to think clearly and her security died. Her beauty and self-confidence died. Her heart died. It was the day her world shattered, and she was left standing still. The rest of the world was...

I can remember it like it was yesterday, my wife telling me that our marriage was over. She had an affair with one of my friends and now felt she didn’t love me enough to stay with me. It felt like I couldn’t breathe. My stomach was churning and felt like it was going to jump out of my...

            We couldn’t believe Zsa Zsa Gabor’s quote, “I know nothing about sex, because I was always married.”  How crazy!  We both were virgins until our wedding night, and over the years we have both commented on awesome our sex life is and how we believe it’s because we obeyed God’s beautiful design for sex by waiting until we had entered that covenant relationship.  Todd’s virginity...

Quote: “Married sex is like being awake during your own autopsy.  It is root canal work without anesthetic.”  - Al Goldstein

Dear Mr. Goldstein,

When I read this quote, at first it made me sad. Sad that there are so many people just like you that have never experienced the blessing of God-honoring marriage and intimacy. Then I did some research because, frankly, I had never heard of you. And...

Sex is full of lies. - Jim Morrison

There are lots of ways to take that statement. One way is to see how we are constantly pressured to buy into the lie that sex equals love. This is such a huge lie, but to ignore that we live in a culture that is propelled and motivated by the sexual imagery found everywhere would be as big of a lie. Our culture screams that if you’re not getting sex your...

In America, sex is an obsession, in other parts of the world, it's a fact. - Marlene Dietrich

Would you agree that sex has become an obsession in America? When my parents were children sex was never talked about. Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz, stars of I Love Lucy slept in separate beds never making mention of sex. In fact all the shows on TV were rated G in terms of sexual conduct.

That’s...

“You are sexually pure when no sexual gratification comes from anyone or anything but your wife.”  –Steve Arterburn

 Nice Stevie!  So true.  I agree.

 Is this true for your husband? Is your sex life the only thing he is getting sexual gratification from? Are you encouraging a healthy sex life?  Have you talked with him about your sex life and his needs?  Lately?  It’s time to talk.  Right...

I must confess, this is a difficult topic for me. Ask me to write about overcoming porn addiction, finding healing in your marriage, the effects of masturbation, who to talk to when you’re struggling, accountability, and just about anything else and I can write a thousand words of encouragement and experience in an effort to help other women who are hurting from a porn-addicted husband. But...