XXXChurch: Spouses Blog

trust[Editor’s note: today’s post is an excerpt from Eyes of Integrity: The Porn Pandemic and How It Affects You by Craig Gross, with Jason Harper]

A healthy marriage is based on trust and intimacy. We see this idea in the scripture that states, “a man should leave his mother and a woman leave her home and the two shall become one.”

That verse is all about leaving what was safe (your parents’...

boundariesBoundaries are good for the whole family.

In our family, we have boundaries for all kinds of things. We limit how much time the kids spend on their Kindle, how long they can veg out watching TV, and how much junk food they're allowed to eat. We limit how late they stay up at night or sleep in. My husband and I limit how much money we spend and follow a budget. We limit how much time we spend...

The least funny jokeI’ve noticed it. My husband has noticed it. Have you noticed it yet?

I’m talking, of course, about the newest trend to make porn a punch line in many jokes in movies and television. It’s getting more and more difficult to find a prime-time comedy show or movie above a PG rating that doesn't mention porn at least once! And in almost every circumstance I have seen it used to add comedic effect....

HideWhen you're facing a tragedy, you might hear a voice in your head that tells you to isolate yourself from the outside world. Run away, hide your wounds, protect yourself. This response is a reflex for many people, and it's totally, outrageously wrong. You need help, and there is no condemnation in reaching out for it (Tweet This!).



When I first confessed the terrible details of my affair...

chatting[Editor’s note: Today’s post is an excerpt from the book Open: What Happens When You Get Honest, Get Real, and Get Accountable by Craig Gross with Adam Palmer]

Social media has opened up the world in many beneficial ways, but it also has removed barriers between us and our baser impulses. Now, if we’re not feeling especially loved at home, then unconditional acceptance is only a chat window...

family essentialsHow do I put into words how absolutely vital a family is, especially in the porn-devastated home. In the home where pornography has seeped down into every crevasse of family life and imploded.

Where husbands have become cowards, wives have become bitter, and children have become a burden.

Where family is broken and hope seems lost.

Where the only remedy is Jesus.

To that home – to my home –...

[Editor’s note: today’s post is adapted from the book Open: What Happens When You Get Honest, Get Real, and Get Accountable by Craig Gross with Adam Palmer]

I once spoke at a marriage conference…where I heard an interesting fact about the relationship between happiness in a marriage and the amount of times the husband and wife in that couple were engaging in sexual activity. In other words,...

sex with my husbandI recently wrote a blog called “8 Reasons My Wife Won’t Have Sex With Me.” I got a lot of great feedback from it and it was viewed over 300,000 times on the first day alone. But one question I kept hearing afterward was: “Could you write one for women and explain to me why my husband won’t have sex with me?

Sure. Sounds easy.

Right?

I asked a few friends for answers, and most of us just...

The dirty detailsWhen my journey toward restoration first began I was obsessed with knowing other women's stories. I wanted to know all the dirty details of their heartbreak because somehow it made me feel better. Maybe it made me feel normal knowing that I wasn't the only woman in the world who was hurt by porn. Or maybe it was so I could compare my husband to their husband and say, “Well at least he wasn't...

Redefining LoveLove is a fight. Love is what happens when you’ve been hurt and you want to quit. Love is what happens when you decide not to. Love is not the beginning of the story but the ending.” -- Jon Foreman

I never aspired to be the wife of a recovering sex addict. As a young woman in love with a godly young man, I would not have guessed our road would take us here, but one thing is for sure: love...