XXXChurch: Spouses Blog
There and Back Again: An Addict's Tale
By Gavin & Kristina Croft
A fatal wound, it was the day she died. Her love died. Her assumptions died and her trust died. Her relationship died. Her ability to think clearly and her security died. Her beauty and self-confidence died. Her heart died. It was the day her world shattered, and she was left standing still. The rest of the world was...
I can remember it like it was yesterday, my wife telling me that our marriage was over. She had an affair with one of my friends and now felt she didn’t love me enough to stay with me. It felt like I couldn’t breathe. My stomach was churning and felt like it was going to jump out of my...
We couldn’t believe Zsa Zsa Gabor’s quote, “I know nothing about sex, because I was always married.” How crazy! We both were virgins until our wedding night, and over the years we have both commented on awesome our sex life is and how we believe it’s because we obeyed God’s beautiful design for sex by waiting until we had entered that covenant relationship. Todd’s virginity...
Quote: “Married sex is like being awake during your own autopsy. It is root canal work without anesthetic.” - Al Goldstein
Dear Mr. Goldstein,
When I read this quote, at first it made me sad. Sad that there are so many people just like you that have never experienced the blessing of God-honoring marriage and intimacy. Then I did some research because, frankly, I had never heard of you. And...
Sex is full of lies. - Jim Morrison
There are lots of ways to take that statement. One way is to see how we are constantly pressured to buy into the lie that sex equals love. This is such a huge lie, but to ignore that we live in a culture that is propelled and motivated by the sexual imagery found everywhere would be as big of a lie. Our culture screams that if you’re not getting sex your...
In America, sex is an obsession, in other parts of the world, it's a fact. - Marlene Dietrich
Would you agree that sex has become an obsession in America? When my parents were children sex was never talked about. Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz, stars of I Love Lucy slept in separate beds never making mention of sex. In fact all the shows on TV were rated G in terms of sexual conduct.
That’s...
“You are sexually pure when no sexual gratiļ¬cation comes from anyone or anything but your wife.” –Steve Arterburn
Nice Stevie! So true. I agree.
Is this true for your husband? Is your sex life the only thing he is getting sexual gratification from? Are you encouraging a healthy sex life? Have you talked with him about your sex life and his needs? Lately? It’s time to talk. Right...
I must confess, this is a difficult topic for me. Ask me to write about overcoming porn addiction, finding healing in your marriage, the effects of masturbation, who to talk to when you’re struggling, accountability, and just about anything else and I can write a thousand words of encouragement and experience in an effort to help other women who are hurting from a porn-addicted husband. But...
Read the above title? Is this your issue? If so….YOU HAVE TO DO IT! In my first marriage, I never even thought about my husband having a porn issue. I have never seen porn….and it is the furthest thing from my mind, so I (wrongfully) assumed his too! I remember when xxxchurch came and spoke at a church we attended and I asked my husband, “do you struggle with porn?” He quickly said “no”. ...
Is there a confession that’s any more daunting than this for a wife? My husband looks at porn. It’s just the worst! When I found out my husband had been looking at porn for years, I was utterly humiliated. Not only did I have to deal with the shame and pain in my marriage, but I was so afraid to talk to anyone about it. Would anyone even understand?? In our hyper-sex-driven culture, would...
