XXXChurch: Spouses Blog
When I first found out about my husband’s addiction I thought, he could just stop. Well, after multiple fights and multiple times of me catching him in lies or looking at pornography I realized this was a battle he wasn’t going to win on his own. I felt like it was up to me to swoop in and save the day like some superhero saving the damsel in distress.
The first couple months of my “mission”...
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Martin Luther King Jr.
About 6 months into my marriage I woke up late one night to find my husband not in our bed. I got up and walked into our office, only to find him looking at pornography. He tried to hide it but wasn’t quick enough as he didn’t hear me coming. That was the start of our...
If you have ever been in bondage to a particular sin or even a lifestyle of sin, you’ve probably said, “I hate that I do this”, right? Even though we may pledge to “never do that again” we often find ourselves right back doing this “sin” within the next week, day or even hour. It’s got its grip on us so tight that we feel smothered like we would if we were wearing a winter jacket in 110˚...
Whether you’re new the chaos of sexual sin in your marriage or you’re all too familiar with the destructiveness of it, there are usually signs that your husband may be struggling with sexual addiction (or addictions of any kind for that matter). As wives, we need to be in tune to our husband’s spiritual, emotional, and physical behaviors and attitudes so that we can be the wife God created us...
It is a fair question to all of us. Has Porn invaded your life? My quick answer would no. I have never seen porn…..I mean I have had an image come up on the screen. When the “internet” was new, I remember people talking about hotmail…..so I went to a computer in the high school library and typed in “HOTMALE” ooooppppppsss. I guess there were not filters back then. But that has been the...
Jesus teaches accountability in Scripture, not to bring punishment, shame, or guilt, but to uplift grace and bring glory to the Father.
God’s grace is about honor and freedom, not bondage. Grace is unmerited and inspiring. It’s compassionate and merciful, not condemning. How can accountability be anything less than that? Too often we allow Satan to distort our view of accountability with God...
It seems that pornography’s influence in our world is more rampant today than ever before! Did you know that 47% of Christians said pornography was a major problem in their home? Did you know 40 million U.S. adults visit pornography websites regularly? You can read more stats here that are really just mind boggling! I’ve done so much research on pornography my eyes have almost become...
Yes, you read the title right. What does God have to do with sex? Or the Holy with the...um…....Humping? EVERYTHING!. God not only invented it, but He called it good! Having a healthy sex life within a marriage is what he CALLS us to! (Can you hear my husband cheering from the other room? Wait, you can't hear it over your own husbands' cheering?) Did you miss that verse in the bible?...
As I watch a video on YouTube from a couple talking about sex toys and swinging, my stomach is literally nauseous. (In case you don’t know, swinging is when a married couple has sex with another couple or another person.) The couple in the video is promoting swinging and actually giving tips on how to be a successful swinging couple. They say that swinging is about having fun; it’s simply...
When the world ponders sex and pleasure, most often genuine intimacy is buried beneath a mountain of sinful acts and shameful motives. The driving force in the pursuit of sexual pleasure has become something centered on novelty, bizarre and mysterious acts, masturbation, and even inflicting or receiving pain. Society continues to go further and further in their quest for the ultimate high,...
