XXXChurch: Spouses Blog
Growing up I was a huge fan of Mötley Crüe and yes I even sported the hair. Thank goodness Darcy didn’t see me then or she would have run. Still to this day I enjoy their music and sound.
Recently I have been listening to a newer band called Sixx AM. For those who may not know the Sixx in Sixx AM is the name of Nikki Sixx; the bassist for Mötley Crüe. He has faced many demons...
Healing for Wives Who've Been Hurt
From Adultery or Porn Addiction.
by Mike Genung
A few years back, I asked my wife to write me a letter describing how my struggle with sex addiction affected her. The following is her letter:
“You asked me to write a letter about how your addiction affected me. At the time, things were a bit hazy and I was young and didn't know what to think...
Walking around downtown
When our husband's look elsewhere, usually we feel like we are not enough.
When a husband takes a second or third glance at women in public, looks intently at women on magazine covers, views pornography, checks out dating sites, and or has an extramarital affair we are left feeling like we just don't measure up and sadly more often than not a wife feels as if somehow this is her...
I must be suffering from writers block during the times I refer to other articles- but this is one that I think is a must read for those of us who have chosen to stand with our husbands as they continue to battle through their struggle with pornography. I have heard some opposition that if a man is a new creation in Christ that he will never ever struggle again and if he does then there is no...
“These two will form a
“We are here today to JOIN this woman and man”……
Join: To become joined <place where two roads join>
“Today we will UNITE this man and woman in holy matrimony”…..
Unite: To put or come together to form a single unit
I have been to several weddings...
Anger…it was a way I controlled things in my life and in my home. It also led to the near destruction of our marriage
What was I angry about? I was angry because Ann did not seem to need me, I was angry because I wanted more stuff, which took more money, which required more work, which made me angry….I was angry because other people and other things made me angry!
I FOUND GOOD NEWS,...
Often when a wife discovers her husband has been involved with pornography or an extra-marital relationship she comes to the place in her mind where she wants to know: "Is my husband (boyfriend or fiance') a sex addict?"
I found this article online by Dr. Doug Weiss. I just want to preface that in my opinion Doug is coming more from a psychological perspective than a biblical perspective,...
The next few blogs that Darcy & I would like to put out will touch on how porn can & will affect your family. The topics that we will look at are; children, spouse, and yourself. For the most part pornography is viewed privately about 95% of the time. People ask often “how can my viewing of porn affect others around me. I watch it alone; it’s just me and the porn this can not possibly...
A common thread that seems to link a lot of us wives together is that we feel (in the beginning stages of the discovery) like we must be to blame somewhere for this horrible problem. There is a stereo type out there and believe me I know it is real because I was once 'of' the world. The stereo type says that "if her man was getting it at home he wouldn't need to get it elsewhere." That is a...
