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4 Reasons Why Women Are Not Sex Objects

by Eddie Capparucci on June 20th, 2016 in Men, Couples, Students

meditation-medicationAccording to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the definition of objectifying is as follows:  “to treat (someone) as an object rather than as a person” Now think for a moment if people started looking, referring, and treating you like an “object”? How do you believe you would feel? Insulted? Demeaned? Dishonored? Befouled? Humiliated? Tarnished?

How about outright pissed? You know you would be! So why then is it considered cool or even natural for us men to look upon women as playthings created simply for our own gratification? This type of behavior rings with an air of superiority, which we have no right to claim.

“There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28,

There is no mistaking that men and women are different. However, they also are seen as equal in God’s eyes. And if the Creator sees them that way, then how can we not? There are many reasons why women are not sex objects and should not be treated as such. Let’s take a look at four.

1. She is a Princess of the King

When men objectify women, we’re asking for trouble because we are messing with God’s daughters. Wow, how stupid are we? We are taking the princesses of the King and reducing them to nothing more than toys. How in the world could we ever believe that is okay?

Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:31

We are commanded to be respectful and loving of others – both men and women. However, there is nothing loving about objectifying more than half of the world’s population. We must elect to treat women in a Christ-like manner and provide them with the respect and dignity they deserve as children of God.

2. She’s Entitled to be Feminine

One way men justify their objectification of women is based on how some dress. However, there is nothing wrong with women expressing their femininity and wanting to feel pretty! Women are entitled to experience those feelings without having to worry about men objectifying them. Instead we should learn to admire and simply observe a woman’s beauty instead of lusting after it. Women should not need to wrap their bodies in burlap because men lack control over lust.

Click here to join3. She has a Brain

Women are not inanimate. Women are not sex objects. They breathe, walk, talk, and think. They have a brain. So what gives men the impression that women are playthings we can use and discard? We live in the modern age of time where women have demonstrated their equality on many levels. They serve in leadership roles in churches, universities, corporations, and even as heads of state in many countries. Yet, too many men prefer to view them as body parts instead of appreciating the whole person. “Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.” Romans 12:10

4. She Deserves Better

Life is difficult. As men we face enormous pressures everyday, whether it’s stress with our jobs, distension in our families, conflicts within our church, the lack of me-time, or a battling a sexual addiction. But women face similar concerns and worries. They often juggle multiple tasks as a housewife, mother, employee, friend, neighbor, and daughter. And with each of these hats comes challenges and obligations.

But nowhere on that list of duties that a woman is required to perform should be the role of sex object. She deserves better than that from men. If she can stand toe-to-toe with men and manage the day-to-day responsibilities and challenges that the world throws at her, shouldn’t she be treated with the upmost respect? The short answer is yes – because she deserves better. It is our obligation as men to view her through different lenses that don’t focus on her sexuality but instead on her personhood. To treat her as Christ treated all women.



  • Tom Hillson

    A lot of what the author says is good, but some of it isn’t. Some of it goes against the Bible even. Like where he says women shouldn’t have to worry about men objectifying them if they dress to look feminine. The Bible itself says women need to not do things so that their brothers aren’t likely to stumble. Take pants, for instance. Is it ok for women to wear pants that outline and make clear the form of their buttocks? What are they doing this for? Men don’t do this. And yet most women, and many Christian women, dress this way. Does the author speak up on this? Does the author turn women away at his church’s door if they are dressed provocatively? Also, the author is speaking to a very small percentage of men who don’t consider women to be humans, just body parts. It is easy to think a woman is sexy, and be attracted to her sexiness, at the same time as realizing that she’s a human being with a mind, feelings, etc. Men are visual, that’s all, so they notice a woman’s appearance more than women notice a man’s appearance.

    • Jenna

      You ask, “Is it ok for women to wear pants that outline and make clear their form? What are they doing this for?” They are doing it because if you ever shop in any clothing departments made for females over the age of 12 in any store, that’s the only kind of pants they sell. They are doing it because when they buy the pants at the store to not fit that tight, they literally fall off completely (because they’re designed to fit tight, so if you buy a bigger size to make them not tight, then they will be too loose on your waist/hips too and literally fall off). Yes, men don’t wear pants that tight, but they would if it was the only option for men in the stores, like it is the only option for women in the stores. What do they do it for? They do it because they need to wear clothes and those are the only clothes available. They can’t help if that’s the only thing all the stores sell. Don’t assume some of them are not still doing their best to dress modestly (despite the tight pants that are beyond their control).

    • Truth Seeker

      Thats just bs that women cant find any other clothing. Im a woman and can find plenty out there that doesnt fit my form tightly. But I choose to dress in loose fitting, flowing skirts for modesty and for being feminine. My husband loves it and says he prefers my skirts over pants anyday.

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