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Confession – I’ve Cheated

by Jon S. on March 4th, 2013 in Men

I was over in the Confessions section of the site today, and I read this post from a guy who’s in the middle of the fight of his life – a fight for his life.

He’s got a wife, two kids, and one more on the way – and yet he finds himself having been unfaithful to his wife and struggling with an addiction that has the potential to destroy everything that is dearest to him.

How do we get ourselves into situations like this?  Why do we put up with addictions and behaviors that we despise deep down?

I think we all know the answer to that question.  It’s what makes an addiction an addiction.  When we’re at our best, we would love nothing more than to snap our fingers and be rid of those thoughts and behaviors.  It’s when we’re at our lowest, though, that temptation hits and we’re more than willing to give in, despite our knowledge of what the consequences could and will be.

The bottom line is this:  we can’t just snap our fingers and make it go away.  It’s not that easy.  We have to be willing to take action – to do whatever it takes to separate ourselves from the addiction – no matter how difficult or uncomfortable it may be for us.

To the man who posted this confession, and to others who find themselves in the same (or similar) circumstances:  I’m praying for you.  I hate this for you and for your family.  I know, at times, words of counsel from others can just sound empty, but I hope you know that you are not alone and that there truly is hope and victory within your grasp.

It will require action on your part, but if victory over these things is what you’re looking for, it will seem a small price to pay.

I encourage you to find someone close to you who will be willing to keep you accountable – to ask you the hard questions on a daily basis.  That may be an uncomfortable conversation to have, but it is so necessary.  Finding a solid Christian counselor may also be necessary.

I encourage you to set up boundaries for yourself.  Get rid of the things that lend themselves to your temptation.  Check out these incredible resources for help.

This confession ended with a desire to get back into right relationship with God.  Let me assure you that God isn’t angry with you but, instead, desires to forgive and help you if you will ask.  His strength alone will carry you where you want to go.

Remember – you’re never alone, and it’s never too late.

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  • Tortelini

    Looks like the guy that posted the confession, like most others, never returned to see replies. There is one obvious reason for that and others not so obvious. I’m sure you realize that you need to reply to his confession if you want him to read this. You didn’t say if you thought that he should confess his infidelity to his wife. I say no. It accomplishes nothing but bringing her pain and gives him a false sense of easing his conscience, plus a bit of tongue-lashing by her. He does need to talk to her about meeting each other’s sexual needs and how often.

    • Jon__S

      Thanks for commenting. While this post, in a way, was directed toward the individual who posted the confession, my goal was to write it in such a way as to address all those who find themselves in similar situations, or those that can relate.

      I agree with you in that there will need to be some thought given as to how this is handled with his family. However, in a setting like this it’s nearly impossible to speak into how to go about each step of the process. My encouragement to anyone in this position would be to take the first step toward freedom, and then take the others as they come.

      • Rigatoni

        kudos for responding to those who post to your blogs. A rarity around her.

        • Jon__S

          Thank you! I do try to follow up as much as possible with people who take the time to comment. It’s great to be able to interact with others about these things!

  • Mud angel

    Why say that God is not angry with you? Prov 22:18 says ” the mouth of an adultorus woman is a pit. The wrath of The Lord in on those who fall into it” Yes, God is angry with men who commit adultery. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t also love them deeply and wants them to repent and be healed.
    Remember God is a father and it angers Him to see his daughters treated this way. But just like the prodigal son’s father, he rejoices when we repent and come home. Maybe he isn’t ready to come home yet. First he must repent not just “feel bad” about it and sometimes knowing that God is angry with him might bring him to repentance. God may be letting him know that He is not happy. That is conviction, don’t stand in the way of conviction. Just point put the path to home where a loving father is waiting for him to return.

    • Jon__S

      Thanks for the comment. Allow me to clarify what I meant. In saying “God is not angry with you,” my intention was not to communicate that God takes sin lightly or is not angered by it. I am simply trying to communicate the position that God takes toward sinners consistently throughout Scripture. It is the same position that you mention in your comment. He is a loving Father waiting for lost ones to return to him. I can only imagine that the father of the prodigal son in that story was deeply upset by his son’s actions. But that was not that stance he took toward his son upon his return. His reaction was one of love and forgiveness. I agree that God is angered by our sin, but He exhibits the perfect balance of both justice and mercy. Many times, when we’re trapped in addiction, we feel that God could never forgive us because we’re too far gone, or because His stance toward us is one of anger and vengeance, and so we choose not to come to Him and ask for forgiveness. That is not the heart of God, and I’m so thankful for that.

  • EZEQUIEL

    according to scripture God does get angry at sin/lustful behavor old testament david and basheba also sodom and gomorah 1 cor 6;9 tells us those behAVORS NOT GO TO HEAVEN

    • Jon__S

      That’s only one side of the coin. I agree – God does hate sin, but I also firmly believe, and Scripture clearly points out, that God LOVES the sinner. Read Luke 15:11-24 and 1 John 1:9. Those are just a snapshot of many verse that communicate the same message.

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