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Friday Rant: Everything Should Be Free?

by Craig Gross on June 3rd, 2016 in Men, Women, Couples, Parents, Students

everything-free[Note: Every Friday we post a new rant from one of our writers, edited only for typos and spelling.This new series is not for those easily offended or for those who only like to play nice. So read this before you start posting your comments.]

I wrote a Monday rant on my personal website here:

My friend and I were emailing back and forth and he said to me:

“Ministry people just don’t sell stuff.”

I said, “You can’t sell something if you are in ministry just like you can’t cuss if you are a Christian. Or can you?”

I hate the mentality that everything coming from the church or a ministry should be free.

We have 14,550 pages on you can browse for free.

We have had over 1.2 million people use our X3watch free software.

Guess what? Turns out that a free user of X3watch today costs us on average of $8 per year. So, we created a paid version of the software that helps fund the free users and the ministry.

Maybe since I turned 40, some things I don’t care about anymore… like explaining why things cost money. I read yesterday, Wendy’s is going to start using computers and robots to replace employees to take your order. Why? Because they can’t survive paying $15 an hour to their employees selling fast food. People are in an uproar over this, but what do you think would happen? Some times things make sense when you spend a moment or two thinking about it. How can a fast food restaurant with a dollar menu survive when you have to pay employees $15 an hour? So, they get smart and replace humans with machines. Try calling any airline or major company on the phone today and you will get an automated service answering, not a live person.

Things costs money.

It already has cost you more then money. It cost you your marriage, your job, your ministry, or your family, and now you are looking for a free way out?

Raising money for porn prevention, awareness, and accountability is a challenge. We have some great supporters of this ministry, but it is a challenge and even if we had unlimited funds, I still think there is value in charging for some of our products.

Every week we get emails asking for a freebie for one of our products. So many times we give discounts, scholarships, and have given stuff for totally free on a number of occasions. When you get something for free, you don’t value it like you do when you pay for it. Many times the people who get stuff for free don’t finish the workshop, don’t join the group, or don’t even begin.

Our ministry brings in 1/3 of our operating budget by donations, and if we only relied on that we would be able to do 33% of what we currently do. So, we have no problems putting a price to something not just because you pay for it and will have a higher chance of getting help, because at the end of the day, not everything in this world is free.

We can’t replace humans here at XXXchurch with robots and machines like Wendy’s.



  • Quentin Banks


    Thanks for posting this. Your frustration comes through loud and clear. I’m a fierce apologist for free market capitalism that would require you get paid for the services you provide and the products that you produce. There is a business side to ministry and things cost money. So many people don’t understand how business works and oftentimes people in the Church can suffer from this ignorance the worst.

    But along with that, your ministry is aimed at those who are sexually broken. And, if this hasn’t dawned on you yet, the sexually broken aren’t usually just broken sexually. People who have been prostitutes, strippers, victims of sexual abuse or are addicted to pornography typically have damage in their lives all across the spectrum. Their marriages and other relationships are often in chaos, their health (both mentally and physically) is often a wreck, and their finances are often in shambles. That’s just the reality

    You’re also providing resources that are tools that benefit people spiritually. The spiritual benefit may be slow coming and that, in turns, may be why people are slow to give. If you were providing a pill that took away the desire to look at porn for 6-8 hours, money would be coming in hand over fist.

    If your demographic were a bunch of financially stable yuppies who were asking for things for free when they could well afford to pay you, then I would be upset. But I suspect that isn’t the case.

    The solution is multi-faceted. I think it’s good to ask people to give SOMETHING if they are able. Do it from a heart of gentleness and respect. And get in the face of the God who called you into this kind of ministry and tell Him all about your frustrations with this and ask Him about how to deal with this. In the end, only He can provide the final solution that will keep you from needing to rant about this issue ever again.

    The same Lord is Lord over all of us and He generously bestows His riches upon all who call upon Him in faith. ~ Romans 10:12 (AMP)



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