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Porn Is To Him What A Pedicure Is To Her?

by Steve-Oh on August 31st, 2009 in Men

I am still working on my the blog for this week called Straight Pimp’n. Today I saw this blog by Pete Wilson pastor of Cross Point Church and aksed him if I could share it with you. He didn’t hesitate and gave me a green light. I hope you enjoy this as much as I did.

Porn Is To Him What A Pedicure Is To Her?

I’ve
read a lot of stupid things in my life but this has to be one of the
stupidest, most ignorant, completely unfounded statements I’ve ever
read (just ask me and I’ll tell you what I really think). While Ian
Kerner, Ph.D. is probably a great guy (and I mean no personal offense
towards him)  I’ve got to to TOTALLY disagree with him on the following
statement he made during an interview for an article on the Today Show
blog. He said…


For many guys porn is basically a 30-second spa day, complete with
happy ending: It feels good, relieves stress and functions as a quick
little treat — kind of like scarfing down a bag of Gummi Bears in the
middle of the day. It doesn’t mean we’re not interested in having “a
real meal” with the woman we love, but sometimes we’re in the mood for
a snack.

He
went on to describe pornography as a harmless distraction that really
doesn’t impact an individual or their relationships with others.

Are you freaking kidding me?

When
I read this I knew I had to speak to this because nothing could be
further from the truth. I’ve met with countless individuals and couples
over the years whose lives and relationships have been severely
impacted by pornography.

* 42 percent of surveyed adults indicated that their partner’s use of pornography made them feel insecure.

Marriage Related Research, Mark A. Yarhouse, Psy.D. Christian Counseling Today, 2004 Vol. 12 No. 1.

* 41 percent of surveyed adults admitted they felt less attractive due to their partner’s pornography use.

Marriage Related Research, Mark A. Yarhouse, Psy.D. Christian Counseling Today, 2004 Vol. 12 No. 1.

* 47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home.

Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003.

I’m not here to try to pile on the guilt. Lord knows if you’re addicted to pornography you don’t need anymore guilt.

I
just want to remind you of the truth which is porn is not a “30 second
spa day” but a powerful cycle of addiction that can and will destroy
your ability to enjoy intimacy with your partner in the way God
intended.

I
want to remind you that you don’t have to continue to allow your mind
and soul to be poisoned by this stuff. You can find freedom from the
cycle of guilt and shame you’re caught in!

One
of the wisest things I’ve ever done is installed Covenant Eyes on my
computer and established a system for accountability in this area of my
life and I want to encourage you to do the same. If you have computers
in your home and or work which don’t have some kind of filter on them I
think you’re just asking for trouble.

Okay (deep breath), I’m stepping down off my soapbox.

Thanks again to Pete Wilson for letting me share his blog with you. Follow Pete Wilson on Twitter at www.twitter.com/pwilson

 

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