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Porn Isn’t the Problem. So What Is?

by Seth Taylor on January 21st, 2016 in Men, Women, Students

blog-pornisnttheproblemLet’s be clear about something – going to war with the porn industry and pretending that its existence is the source of all of our struggles with sexuality is silly. Porn Isn’t the Problem. The porn industry exists because of a simple economic principle called supply and demand. We want it, so it’s there.

We literally created the porn industry through our demand for it. And those people can’t figure out how to distribute their product fast enough because of that demand.

So protesting a porn show, like the dude in the video that Craig posted the other day, can become a way of unconsciously pacifying the internal guilt and shame we feel because we want something we’re not supposed to want.

And this is a deep, deep, thing.

In the Scriptures, it says, “Judge and you will be judged. Condemn and you will be condemned.” That’s often read in a way that says, “Don’t judge/condemn or God will get you.” But I think it actually is more helpful to understand it as a way that human consciousness functions.

Think about it this way: what we experience externally is a mirror of what we are experiencing internally, in the darkest corners of our unconscious. If we judge others, that judgment comes from an internal self-hatred.

I did this all the time. Growing up, I was taught to hate myself and my own pain and sin, so my view of the world and the beautiful souls in it was tainted. I saw them the way I saw myself.

That’s why, when we begin to find internal health and healing, it leads to a deep love for ourselves, which in turn allows us to drop judgment of others (which is an incredible piece of the whole “freedom puzzle”). It frees us to make choices for our lives that aren’t based on some law or prohibition (which brings death and just makes things suck royally), but rather based in true desire rooted in our spirits – which seeks God almost like a long-lost Lover.

So rather than looking at porn and saying, “I can’t have that,” we can look at it and say, “I can have that if I want it. So why do I want it so badly?” And then we deal with the why. No guilt, no shame. This type of freedom from “the law” is a far more helpful way to approach this issue.

And you’ll discover through this process that the “problem” is infinitely more complex than some poisonous theology that demands you see yourself as a turd on the bottom of God’s shoe. That paradigm of humanity is the problem – not you.

So, as I have said so many times before, we are free to ask the only real question: What do you want? Because you can have whatever you want – seek it and you will find it if you seek it with all of your heart.

Blessings to everyone with the courage to lay down the sword, megaphone, and pamphlets for the sake of stepping onto the sacred road of Pilgrimage. See you on the road.

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  • remainderman

    Good article. As Christians we can borrow a concept from the east: balance. The word says that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. The word also says we are no longer bound by the law because of his grace. So those of us who went through puberty as a believer, probably spent a lot of time sprinting between both extremes. As I have gotten older and dealt with addictions of my own, I found my answer to the riddle of balance is God’s love.

    God’s love is inexhaustible. It’s in that power source where we can find the strength to bust free from the self hate and start building a desire to love ourself as someone loved by God and not a slave to carnal self love. This come from a revelation that we are unconditionally loved by him.

    I know this might seem a little trite, but you’re right, it is a complex question, and with addiction, the path to being able to let completely go of that thing to which you’ve sworn your allegiance is equally complex.

  • Ronaldo Ballecer

    I agree with almost everything you said except with this: So rather than looking at porn and saying, “I can’t have that,” we can look at it and say, “I can have that if I want it. So why do I want it so badly?” And then we deal with the why. No guilt, no shame. This type of freedom from “the law” is a far more helpful way to approach this issue.

    I’m pretty sure I’ve done that sort of thing dealing with my own problem/sin. It’s a very honest and legitimate of way dealing with even any kind of temptation. And I’ve downloaded all the sermons that I could find and do all the things that they teach. But I always fall flat with my face on the ground. I can’t find my victory. During those times I’ve always blamed only myself and that maybe I’m just not getting what others are teaching (which I think is true).

    But now as a bible teacher I’ve found out that the Christian life is really by faith from start to finish. The bible says that the righteous shall live by faith. This kind of life is the God kind of life. And this living is from now until eternity. The bible says that it’s always leading to a procession of victory – our living.

    I cannot quote all the scriptures here but the principles are in Romans, First and Second Corinthians and Ephesians as well as the Gospels. For example, 2 Corinthians 10:5 says, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to.” The questions then are: 1. How do we demolish argument against the knowledge of God? 2. How do we take captive every thought? Then we look at the immediate context in verse 4 and also verse 6. Verse 4 says that we have weapons and verse 6 says that we have the victory. In Ephesians 6, our weapons are: the sword of the Spirit, shield of faith etc. But the book of Ephesians also says that the full armor of God is necessary. Ephesians 1 says ALL spiritual blessings have been given. They are fully available.

    I cannot fully explain my entire point here but victory is achieved by doing this (somehow): you take your situation (your mind, your emotion, your temptation) and bring them in the spiritual realm (where God is and where all your resources are) and have faith in what God has already said in His word (every promise you know) and then you will have victory. You can do this by worshiping, praying and meditating on God’s word. We enter the spiritual realm where Christ is by faith in His finished and complete work in the cross.

    My problem with pornography has held me captive for so long and temptations still come but God has provided me complete victory.

    • Seth Alan Taylor

      Psyched to hear you’re free man… keep going.

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