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Porn Makes Me Compare My Wife to Porn Stars

by Joel L. on December 10th, 2012 in Men

It’s not fair.

Sometimes life is not fair and at times it can be our own fault.

Not growing up in a Christian home, I remember a relative telling me when I was young once you seen one pair of breasts, you want to see them all.  Guys, let’s admit it most of us are visually stimulated and paying the price for our sins can be our wives.

If we close our eyes we can compare all the women we have seen online. This is something that is just not fair to our wives. It’s a battle we fight with our minds. It’s a battle a guy named David lost.  2 Samuel 11:2-4…

“One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.”  Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her.”

He was amazed at what he saw and wanted her.  Often at times we want what we can’t have and take our wives for granted.

The person you look at when looking at porn is not your wife.  It is not the person God intended for you to be with. David acted on this and soon paid the price. Go ahead and look what happened to David as a result (Spoiler: It doesn’t get better).

I have prayed and wished the people I have looked at online went away.  Those are not the images I want in my head.  The problem is getting worse across the country.  There are more and more psychologist that are meeting with people because of Porn Induced Sexual Dysfunction.  The people they see in real life can’t compare with the people they see online and can’t perform sexually as a result.

God intended us to be attracted to our spouses, it goes more than looks.  Love is just more than what you look like.  Marriage and love is emotional, is sacrifice, is serving one another.  Porn can paint a false idea of what marriage and our spouse looks like.

When I first went to get help for my problem with porn, I was told a simple prayer to say…

“Lord, give me eyes for only my wife.”

There are times when my mind deceives me, but this prayer can help align me.

We can still mess up, we can still be a work in progress, I hope and pray we head in the right direction.

God intended for us to be attracted to our spouses, what are ways you can focuses more on your spouse and less on what you remember from what you see online?

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  • One_Reader

    If you are comparing your wife to some porn stars, she may look different than them. If you compare her to other porn models, whether they are stars or not, she may look similar to them. In other words, there is no one “porn star” body or look. There are some stereotypical porn star looks that for me are quite unattractive. Good article. As to your final question, it’s a matter of rewarding correct behavior and thoughts. If you reward porn memories or images with an orgasm, you will keep desiring them. By the way, David’s sin wasn’t looking at Bathsheba and desiring her. It was when he didn’t let go of his desire, once he found out that she was married.

    • Chris

      I’m sure he sinned many times over watching her bath…
      Doesn’t take much to come to that conclusion. The taking of Bathsheba was just the next step up. It ended in the death of an innocent man. sin breeds sin. Matthew 5:27-29 – 27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[a](A) 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.(B) 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble,(C) gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

      • One_Reader

        Wow… sorry I missed your comment. Maybe I have posted elsewhere so you already have an idea of my thoughts. Matthew 5:28 only applies to David’s sin once David knew that she was married, since sex with a married woman is forbidden (adultery). If she were a single woman, his looking and desiring her would have been approved by God: 2 Samuel 12:8. Matthew 5:28 has been conflated outside of it’s intent which was to point out that desiring evil is the first step in committing evil. Having sex isn’t evil; desiring or thinking about sex isn’t evil. We have the Catholic Church, rabbis, and various religionists of the past to thank for these entrenched false teachings having entered the church.

      • One_Reader

        P.S. God wasn’t opposed to David marrying Bathsheba, but he should have waited until Uriah died in battle as God likely had already planned. David of course didn’t realize this and made the mistake of his life. Her pregnancy forced him to take measures to try to protect her and himself. That didn’t work. Bathsheba was considered David’s favorite wife, his “soul mate”, she became the queen mother and was the ancestor of Jesus and His link to King David through both Joseph and Mary, via different sons of Bathsheba. There can be no doubt as I see it, that their marriage was pre-ordained.

  • Sex is not all the meaning of life and the God himself has described it in the Holy Bible too. It is the Holiness you have achieved that counts and rest is the devil. So, root out this devil inside you and follow his path. You can even get his blessings with you always with his holy gifts likecross pendant, cross necklace and the holy rose of jericho.

  • My ways

    I fuck wildly.

    • Thomas_Fin

      The Lord brought you here for a reason, you may not believe that or see it yet, but it is true. Only you will know that reason.

      • Neo

        Choose the red pill. The Oracle works for the machines.

  • Doug

    I have a question: is this something we should or should “confess”or share to our wives? I’m not asking whether we should or not tell them that we’ve looked sinned and looked at porn. but when the images haunts us etc. what then?

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