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Quote – Robertson Davies

by Joel L. on April 24th, 2013 in Men


Great in bed thanks to watching other people have sex

Said no one ever. Usually this line happens afterwards a quote or a point made by a person, rather then saying it was a lie, you say, “said no one ever.” This can happen in all forms of conversations…

I can run 10 miles immediately after eating at a Chinese buffet…said no one ever. Or…

I look my best when I wake up in the morning and not look at a mirror…said no one ever.

There was a lie I used to believe, “I learned how to plese my wife by watching porn.” Soon afterward, I realized there was a said no one ever. There is a quote by Roberston Davies saying…

“Pornography is rather like trying to find out about a Beethoven symphony by having someone tell you about it and perhaps hum a few bars.”

Watching sex does not make you better at sex. I thought I could learn from what I watch and apply it to my relationship. I was wrong. I was inexperienced and thought if I saw what worked on the screen then sex would be better for me and I would be better in bed. It wasn’t true. It didn’t make me better, learning from my mistakes and shortcomings helped my relationship. Porn affected my relationship.

Porn showed me sex, but not sex that my wife enjoyed. I thought of different things I saw on screen that made the people look happy, different positions that weren’t comfortable for either of us. Performing and doing different things we saw on screen didn’t work for us and honestly hurt at times.

I wish I would have know this quote earlier. Porn in not actual sex, it’s a show. You can’t expect to watch true TV by watching reality TV just like you can’t expect porn to be real sex. In order to improve you have to have good communication between a spouse and yourself.

Proverbs 12:1 states, “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.” Limited amounts of people reach the sex pinnacle the first time they have sex, and porn can’t help with that. This verse from Proverbs goes into discipline, sex is a discipline. You can’t get better by watching it; you can get better by communication with your partner and ability to realize you’re not perfect and can improve.

Porn will not make you better in bed, thank you Davies for giving us a funny quote with a great point. Sex is more and better in real life and the video is only the touch of the iceberg of the amazing gift of sex that God have given us. How will you improve when it comes to sex? What are you willing to do to improve?



  • Mud angel

    One of the things people forget is that porn stars are actresses. What ever they are doing on screen is an act. It doesn’t really feel good to them, it probably does hurt and they are not as excited as they seem or at all for that matter. So when you try do do it and it doesn’t work you get frustrated at yourself or ,more often, at your partner.guys tend to think “If the girl on screen liked it why doesnt she? We must be doing something wrong.” No, it wasn’t really good for the porn star either. She was acting. Porn is like a commercial for a toy, everyone smiling and having so much fun. Then you buy it you find out its a cheap piece of plastic and doesn’t work as advertized. If you are trying to recreate porn you have turned your wife into a sex toy. The secret is not to buy into the lie.
    Great sex is full of love, acceptance and joy. Porn cannot teach you about those things, it steals those from you and ruins sex for your wife. I was one of those wives who did not like sex much. I felt like My sexual desires were considered boring because porn taught him that “great sex” was wild and kinky. But no matter what we did he was never satisfied because he bought into the lie that porn sex was good sex.It took a long time for him to see the lie of sexual satisfaction is that it can come from anything other than love. Thankfully we are both very happy now and I wish that for every couple.

  • Mud angel

    Remember that satisfaction for women is not all about an orgasm, but about being cherished and delighted in. If a man wants hour long sex and thinks giving her multiple orgasms like in the movies is what being a good lover means, his wife will still feel used and lose interest in sex. A woman wants him to be her lover, he cant do that if his mind is full of porn. Serving her in bed starts in keeping your heart and mind pure so she can be the focus of your love and desire. Books can’t inform you about your partners likes and dislikes, all you need to do is pay attention you your partner and put them first.

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