Bondage frightens me. I mean chains, whips, muzzles, degradation, dildos, plugs, sweat, spit, piss, sadism, and masochism…..it is all too much for me. Which currently is putting me in the minority as far as societal norms go.
Now first let me clarify to you want BDSM and S&M are by definition.
Hold on to your hats:
BDSM is an erotic preference and a form of sexual expression involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play. The compound acronym BDSM is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D or B/D), dominance and submission (D&S or D/s), and sadism and masochism (S&M or S/M). BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures.
So in a sense S&M are included in BDSM but let me clarify just for this article.
Sadomasochism broadly refers to the receiving of pleasure—often sexual—from acts involving the infliction or reception of pain or humiliation. The name originates from two authors on the subject, Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. A subset of BDSM, practitioners of sadomasochism usually seek out sexual gratification from these acts, but often seek out other forms of pleasure as well. While the terms sadist and masochist specifically refer to one who either enjoys giving pain (sadist), or one who enjoys receiving pain (masochist), many practitioners of sadomasochism describe themselves as at least somewhat of a switch, or someone who can receive pleasure from either inflicting or receiving pain.
Wow…okay so now that we have it all laid out for you we need to touch on the subject of normality. Now I did a lot of research when it came to this topic (which I totally do not recommend unless you have some great Purity Software like X3Watch), and went to the Word of God. I can honestly say that I didn’t read one time where Jesus spoke on such subjects which led me to this conclusion.
It cannot be normal in the realm of Christianity but then again who am I to judge. I can say for certainty however that I believe that it is becoming one of societies unspoken norms. After Rhianna came out with the song “S&M” we were all forced to hear how she loved the smell of sex….I mean come on. I really believe it has something to do with low self-esteem and a warped sense of what sex really is. I mean take porn for example. It is no more just a man and woman on the beach having sex (note I didn’t say making love because its not and it should never be called “making love” when in front of a camera) it is now a woman surrounded by 30 men.
So again I think this issue comes down to the old Christian Norm versus Societal Norm. you be the judge. Honestly do I think you will go to hell for indulging in BDSM when married, monogamous, and in a healthy accepting way….No. However that nearly defeats the purpose.
So go with caution.
Pray for those afflicted with BDSM and help them to find freedom because usually it is not just the chains surrounding their bodies holding them down, often times it is the chains on their hearts and souls.