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What Do I Do When I Can Not Find Accountability

by Joel L. on November 21st, 2012 in Men

Accountability can make all the difference in the world. For the first time in a long time, I started to train for something. I am trying to train for swimming and qualifying for nationals. Last year I had some minor injuries that kept me from going 100 percent. I slowly went up in weight and went from 185 to 196 and it was all fat. I kept tell myself, I will start training more and eating better next week. Week after week I told myself this until a friend who is getting her major in nutrition asked for a person to be in a case study. I volunteered and she chose me.

I went from working out two days a week to six and went from eating between 2200 and 3900 calories a day to a extremely healthy 2200-2600 with no burgers/pizza a.k.a. the food that taste good. While I have not overly enjoy the little sacrifices made everyday, over a month later I went from weighing 196 to 182 and am in the best shape since high school. The only difference is accountability.  I have to be accountable to my friend.

If it was just up to me I would be eating all the crap in the world and keep mentioning next week. Accountability is key. If you don’t have accountability, now is the best time to start.

This site has all sorts of resources, but it’s more than that. You need to find a person in your life to keep you accountable. If that scares you that you have to go seek help. It should, if it was easy to admit you have a problem with porn the 70 percent of guys that look at it every week would come clean. It’s not easy, it’s tough to admit you have this problem.

It honestly can be the best decision you have ever made. I have wasted hours upon hours wasting my life looking at porn, I will never get those moments back.

Seek help, seek a friend, someone you can trust in.  It’s not easy, but believe me, it is the best decision you can make. I would not be where I am at with porn without accountability.

For a long time I tried to do this on my own. It’s embarrassing to tell my wife that I had an addiction to porn and need help. It was the only way I would get better. I tried so many times to get a hold of my addiction to porn on my own and told myself, I could do this. Soon I could do this was turning into, I will start doing this tomorrow, then next week, then next month. I was falling deep into a hole with no way of getting out. I needed help.

I have my wife, co-workers, an accountability friend and accountability software to keep me in line. If you do not have help, start talking to someone today.

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  • Bob

    This is so true. Before coming clean about my porn use I tried to stop many times. Since no one else knew my struggle or my desire to break free, no one could keep me accountable. A few years ago, I could not bear the guilt any longer, so I told a friend. Just knowing that someone else knew was a great relief. Although I’ve been clean from porn for a while, I still stay accountable to a few guys.

    • Joel_L

      Bob, That is awesome to hear man! Glad you were able to take that step forward to get clean man! Thanks so much for commenting!

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