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Amnesty – You May Need To Give It To Your Kids

by Kevin E. Outland on March 13th, 2014 in Parents

AmnestyFor over 10 years I have been fortunate to speak to parents across the country about how to protect their kids from Internet dangers. One handout parents receive as they walk into my seminars is an “Amnesty Agreement”. And it’s the first thing we talk about. Here’s basically what it says:

The undersigned hereby acknowledge that the information provided in the seminar may lead to a discovery that a child has used the Internet to view material that may be inappropriate or against our family values. We further understand that addictions, such as an addiction to pornography, can be very strong and not easily cured. In the event we discover that a child is using or has used the Internet for inappropriate purposes, we agree to treat them with Mercy, Understanding, Grace and Love. Specifically, any confrontation of the issue will be made in love and will not be judgmental or unforgiving. Further, upon such confrontation in love, we commit to helping the individual fight their battle in a God-honoring manner.

The “Amnesty Agreement” is an important tool to set the right tone. If your child is viewing porn you, the parent, are partly to blame. You pay for the Internet service and most likely the computer, tablet or smartphone they’re using to view the Internet. You are the one giving them access to porn. So if you haven’t put protections in place to help limit their access to objectionable content it’s partly on you. So you need to acknowledge that and forgive your child and yourself for what has happened. Whatever your child has done online in the past you give them “Amnesty” for it. After the seminar is over parents have the information they need to put the appropriate safe guards in place. So as a family you wipe the slate clean and start anew. Amnesty.

Once amnesty is in place your entire family can start working together to keep each other accountable and safe online.

 

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  • jackie

    I remember when my parents found out I was watching porn. My mom told me that next time she’d “beat the s*** out my a**” and then gave me the silent treatment. My dad threatened to beat me also but he didn’t. Heck he hardly talks to me anyway

    • Ray

      Im sorry to hear this. Praying for you.

    • This kind of goes to my point about grace.

  • Astro1971

    How do you share the new found freedom that has so affected relatonships with family.

  • gdog420

    Porn is awesome

    • So it “The Hobbit” but it’s fantasy and the reality of it is dark and painful.

  • Caleb

    “If your child is viewing porn you, the parent, are partly to blame. You pay for the Internet service and most likely the computer, tablet or smartphone they’re using to view the Internet. You are the one giving them access to porn. So if you haven’t put protections in place to help limit their access to objectionable content it’s partly on you.”

    I’m sorry, but that’s not always true. My mom did her best, but I simply am smarter than any blocks she could figure out how to use and put up. She did her best, and I don’t believe she should take a fall for my own mistakes.

    • They are only “partly” to blame not “fully”. The point of the blog is grace. So when parents catch a child looking at Internet porn they need to realize they provided the access by paying for the Internet services their kids are using. You are correct that you mom shouldn’t take the fall but she she understand she is “partly” to blame and then address the situation with grace understanding you both had a part in this (you more so than her but you both played a roll). That point isn’t blame it’s grace.

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