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I’m a Girl and I Struggle with Porn

by Cris Clapp Logan on September 3rd, 2015 in Parents

girl-i-struggle-with-pornIt’s unfortunate but many parents still do not realize that their children may be struggling with pornography use. Today, I am telling Jamie’s story—a sixteen-year-old girl (whose name has been changed), and how her struggle began and where she is now.

Jamie’s Story

I was pretty shocked, devastated and ashamed when my parents discovered my porn addiction.  I was a straight-A student; I was involved in my youth group; I was a good athlete.  Overall, my parents thought I was on the right track, and I mostly was, which is why I wanted to keep my struggle buried from everyone around me. 

I had been exposed to pornography when I was twelve.  I was working on a school assignment, and when I went to watch an educational video on YouTube, there was a sex video included in the related video content on the left side, even though sex had nothing to do with what I was looking up.  I don’t really know why I first clicked on the video, but I did, and it was short clip of two girls kind of hooking up.  It didn’t show very much, but it had information about where I could go to see more.  I felt a little like I shouldn’t look up more videos, but I did, and I looked at a lot that day – maybe thirty videos.  None of them showed anything too explicit, but there were no actual body parts or anything, but you could see girls in thongs and lots of suggestive actions and lots of making out.

I didn’t look anything else more that week, but later, I wanted to.  For about a few months, I looked at lots of videos on sites like YouTube.  I have my own laptop that my parents gave me to use for schoolwork, and so I just would take it into my room and watch whatever I wanted to or when my parents were out.

At some point, I took my watching to other sites, and on those sites, I could see a lot.  There are tons of sites where you can see tons of body parts, lots of close ups and videos of girls touching themselves of guys having sex with girls.  I would watch and honestly, it would turn me on.  Whenever I had the chance, I started touching myself.  At night, I would sneak my computer into my room after my parents went to bed and go online and touch myself and watch porn.

Soon, I started going into sex chatrooms and connecting with guys that wanted to watch me touch myself.  I knew things were getting out of control, but I felt like I couldn’t stop, and I was embarrassed to talk to anyone about it.  I felt dirty, and I knew that what I was doing wasn’t right, but I just didn’t know what to do.  It was around this time when, late at night, for some reason, my dad opened the door to my room to find me masturbating to the computer screen.  The first thing he said was, “Oh my gosh, Jamie!! What are you doing?!?!”  The second thing he said was: “But you’re a girl!”

It was one of the most embarrassing, awful moments of my whole life.  Since then, my parents found a counselor for me to talk to about my porn use, and it has gotten better.  They also put filters and controls on all of our Internet devices.  It’s still hard because [sometimes] I still want to look.

If you’re a parent reading this blog now, it’s critical to realize that even girls can struggle with pornography.  It’s imperative that you use strong parental controls and filters on all Internet-enabled devices that your kids use; make it a policy not to allow your kids to use their computers or Internet-connected phones in their room or behind closed doors, and get ahead of the issue by talking to your son or daughter about healthy sexuality and the harmful impact pornography can have. Also, visit iParent.TV for tons of resources that will help keep you informed when it comes to tech tools, trends, and all the stuff your kids are using every day.

 

 

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  • Jayq C

    Agree with the summary at the end.

    “I would watch and honestly it would turn me on” — duh!

    Her parents gave her porn to watch, so why would they be surprised that she would watch it? I would fully expect my 12 and 13 year old kids to watch it or something similar. Sexual curiosity and self-education is a natural, healthy phase in life. Her dad (if this is even a true story), unless he has been living under a rock for the last 20 years, HAD to know this when he bought the internet and computers for his home. Porn is one of the reasons why people buy highspeed connections, which she had.

    Assuming that an intelligent child is likely the product of intelligent parents, I don’t buy her camming online with her door unlocked, nor do I believe her dad opened her door without knocking OR that he wouldn’t know that most girls masturbate, often starting when they’re 4-6 years old. This seems like an attempt at prurient drama being added to an article, including the use of the phrase “touch myself”. If it’s true story, it might make a good porn comedy scene. But, it sounds as believable as a guy delivering a sausage pizza to me.

    • birdy

      You underestimate just how ignorant people can be. I have no difficulty with the idea of a parent who just never thinks that his ‘darling daughter’ could possibly be interested in something so sordid as sex.

      I’m not saying the story is true. Just plausible.

      • Jayq C

        I suppose I should be more open-minded.

    • cknorm

      And the award for the most insensitive, delusional person goes to…… YOU!
      Are you out of your mind? From a worldly view, yes they say this behavior is normal, but even that can lead to a destructive lifestyle. What you see as “hot”, can turn into a sex addiction. So when she gets married one day and has a family, and finds herself chatting, hooking up with strange men on the internet, putting her health and marriage in danger. It’s just natural. No! It’s out of control and a new perversion…Online porn.

    • Jenna

      Plenty of people don’t expect their daughters to have an interest in porn. Their sons, yes, but not their daughters. So many say it’s “just a guy thing”. As far as her masturbating at her computer with her door unlocked, I can believe that. I used to do that myself. If you don’t have a lock on your door, you think your parents are asleep, and you’re addicted to porn…it’s actually quite easy to end up taking risks like that.

  • Em

    I really get this. I have been in recovery for a year and men in sex addiction recovery still don’t understand that I am a woman and I am there for many of the same reasons as they are. It’s CRAZY! I had a guy showing me the recovery literature pamphlets and said to me “well you don’t need this one,” holding up the ‘our addiction and the internet’ pamphlet; “Because you’re a woman.” I was ABSOLUTELY shocked that he just assumed that.

  • El Barto

    Porn Addiction. What a joke!

  • little pito

    Ugly whore.

  • Troll

    Hi, you look hot… do you have any bikini pictures ? :*

  • Marta Cacciani

    I think that girls’ masturbation is totally normal and it just lead you to know your body better.. Porno are just the trigger 🙂

  • Jeff parks

    I’ve been with the same woman 27 years. She says she’s never masterbated! I do t think that’s right. What so yall think..everybody has explored themselves at some point. ..I was addicted for 20 years to beautiful naked women in pictures. .I’ve only been with 5 women in my life .never cheated but probably would have had I not had a desire not to hurt her spirit and still lived God. What I’ve learned is once we realize we really love God, we have to realize his grace covers us anyway. .then we feel the grace to move one step at a time in our xzoudos out of the grips of a giant principality. …there are giant killer’s. .you just got to perceive them when near

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