About This Episode
On my new podcast The Panic Button, I get a lot of questions from people who are in a panic. Oftentimes, when you’re in a panic it’s in response to something.
I don’t get many questions like, “Hey, my daughter’s about to turn 13 and we’re considering letting her on Instagram. What are some concerns that I should be aware of or precautions or boundaries I should place on my 13-year-old before I allow her on Instagram?”
Wouldn’t that be a good question? I never get that one.
I get questions like, “My daughter’s posting inappropriate things on social media. What do I do?!?”
The real issue this question boils down to is boundaries. Are we teaching our kids boundaries and responsibility when we hand them an $800 phone or are we letting them go wild? I am shocked that as parents we give our kids these devices and we don’t teach them how to use it.
Here’s what I’d tell this person: you’re the parent, she’s the child.
I don’t care if you’re best friends. I don’t care if you have a best friend necklaces or best friend tattoos. You’re still the parent. You’re in control.
Your daughter has a curfew. She probably has to get passing grades. Heck, she might even have to do the dishes or be nice to her brother. I mean there are certain rules we have on our kids because we’re the parent and they’re the child.
So there are responsibilities that come when you give your kid an $800 toy like a phone. It’s not just a kid toy.
In this episode, I share a few rules that I have with my kids about phones and some ideas on how to use the phone to build relationships instead of waste time and post things they’d regret.
Kids will be up to no good, not because they’re awful human beings, but they’re kids and they don’t know what we should know as adults. So don’t make them learn the hard way. Ease them into this stuff and don’t just give them a device and let them run free.
Our Favorite Quotes From This Episode
- You’re the parent, she’s the child. I don’t care if you’re best friends. I don’t care if you have a best friends necklace or a best friends tattoo. You’re still the parent. You’re in control.
- I think when we give our kids a phone, what I want to teach them first is that this is a tool for me to be able to get ahold of you.
- I’ve seen lots of families use their iPads as a babysitter at a restaurant, but then these kids don’t know how to look up from the screen for one second to order their food. They don’t know how to communicate, let alone like have a conversation or relationship with somebody.
- Our kids are gonna grow up and be out of the house one day and have to make bigger decisions and choices than what app to download.
- I want you to think twice about what you send to somebody, what you share, and what you post publicly because that’s gonna live on the Internet forever.
- Don’t feel bad for parenting. You’re the parent and you know what your kids need and what you need.
- Kids will be up to no good, not because they’re awful human beings, but they’re kids and they don’t know what we should know as adults, so don’t make them learn the hard way.