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Frequently Asked Questions.
Do you have anything available for a wife whose husband has just revealed he has been looking at porn? I am beyond devastated and have no idea how to carry on with life.
Yes, absolutely. I’m sorry that you are dealing with this in your marriage. You are not alone and hopefully you can get the support and encouragement you need to be able to walk alongside of your husband in this. First I would recommend going to our Get Help Section that specifically addresses this. Then visit the abundance of resources we have available for the spouse. Lastly— you may also be interested in joining one of our X3groups for spouses.
God has not abandoned you and He will carry you through to heal your broken heart if you allow Him. I just said a prayer for you.
Do you have any groups to connect with pertaining to Extra-Marital affairs? I confessed to my wife that I cheated on her with another man… This is influenced by past sexual situations that happened during middle school and have influenced this sexual deviancy within myself… I am seeing a counselor and working to restore my marriage but I was also hoping for other support groups.
While we do not have a group specifically for those who have had extramarital affairs, the X3groups do have members in groups that have had them. You may want to consider joining one of the groups to see if it is a good fit for you. I do think you will find the encouragement, accountability and support that these groups offer helpful.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and she recently confessed to me that she has been struggling with masturbation since she was young. I want to help her break free, but I’m not sure how I should go about doing it. Usually I’d seek guidance from a few strong, close Christians in my life, but I want to keep this issue confidential for her sake. Masturbation/pornography used to be a big struggle in my life, but by God’s grace it has not been an issue for a couple years. We have remained pure in our relationship, and I encouraged her to share her struggle with a woman in her life, to which she agreed. I really care for this girl and have indefinite plans to propose in the next couple months. Is there something I can be doing to help her? Resources (from a Christian perspective) are so hard to find for my relatively unique situation. Thanks so much in advance.
I think the advice that you have already given her to share her struggles with other women in her life is the best suggestion.
Due to the closeness of your relationship, your own previous struggles and just normal temptation that couples in a dating or courting relationship face, I would advise that this (her struggle with masturbation) not be something you try to hold her accountable to. I would however say it is OK to hold her accountable to finding a good female accountability partner to discuss all of it in depth with.
Best wishes to you both!
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