Questions

I am 22. I grew up in a Christian home and became a Christian myself at the age of three. I had my first exposure to porn when I was about 10-11. I do not recall any feelings of guilt or of “losing my innocence”—I just loved it and had to have more. I still feel this way now, although physically I am about as virgin as virgin can be. (I’m not a very social person. I’ve never been on a date and as such the extent of my physical “sexual” interaction is that I can count the number of times I’ve been hugged on one hand.) However, since then I have progressed to watching porn 1-3 times a day with the exception of several attempts to quit, none of which I was able to keep going more than a couple weeks. Intellectually, I know what I’m doing is wrong. The Bible tells us that sex is intended as a gift to be enjoyed exclusively within a monogamous heterosexual marriage. The reason this is harder for me is that outside of the metaphoric “holy grail” of actually having physical sex, I do not want to get married for reasons both related and unrelated to this issue, so the Bible’s given reason for extramarital celibacy is irrelevant in my case. I know I’m supposed to be trying to have a relationship with God, but being by nature a very practical, down-to-earth kind of person I find it difficult (to put it lightly) to have a relationship with someone when your only means of communication from this person is a collection of documents that was written generically for everyone (as opposed to being written to me specifically) thousands of years before I was born. In conclusion, I’m generally angry that I seem to have been put in a no-win position. God considers what I’m doing to be a sin, but offers no hope/relief to those who, like me, don’t want to marry. I don’t want to stop because I like doing what I’m doing and I see no harm in it, but I want to want to stop because I know that how much I like an activity has zero bearing on its definition as a sin. Please help me find motivation. (I know that last sentence sounds like good motivation, but it’s awfully hard when the benefits of a sin are tangible and immediate and the cost is not.)

I am addicted to 3 sum sex and things like that not porn,i like to do it in real not watch it Is it bad?please give me your opinion I love to have sex with many women married or unmarried Thanks

What Happened to your SSA Blog, it helped me out a lot. It brought up a topic that not many people know how to deal with in the church and it help me to strengthen my relationship with Christ.