Frequently Asked Questions.
I dealt with Pornography for 5 years before I got married. Up to the day I got Married, I was porn free for 6 months and thought it was under controlled. Now after over a year, It has come back to tempt me on a much stronger desire I have never felt before and I am slowly falling back into viewing pornography. I have been very good at keeping it a secret to everyone but I am so scared of my wife finding out and hurting her that I feel sick every time I view something. Am I able to overcome this without including my wife or should I tell my wife what I am going through?
We always believe that honesty is the best way to confront something- but that being said I think it is important that your wife is in a position to receive the information. It might be beneficial to sit down with a pastor and work through some of this with his guidance and then bring your wife in on the conversation. We also have X3groups running strong here at XXXchurch, you might want to check into those as well.
How do you keep your hopes up? Porn is a thing of the past for me. I hated it, it made me feel like the furthest thing from a man. But now I think about getting married. And I have these thoughts in my head, of my sisters saying “Guys fantasies are unrealistic”. I feel like saying “whats the point then?” How do you dream of having the marriage you want when you can’t even have what you dream for? Whats the point? I also love love love the idea of my wife having huge boobs or breast implants. But.. how the heck do you explain that to someone? “Hey would you be okay with getting a boob job”. Response, “Your a pervert!”. I’ve asked my family this and the common response seems to be “are boobs all that matter?” I’ve just been finding it real tough lately and I don’t know what to do. I find it even discouraging to consider dating, just because I feel like I’m gonna be let down.
I think you need to get with someone one on one to walk through some of this with. We offer X3groups if you feel like there is no one in your life you can mull this over with. Some of your desires are most likely a direct result of worldly influence or your porn use of the past. Other desires may not be unrealistic at all. I think the Lord is capable of bringing you a wife with big boobs so I don’t think you need to be in despair over that. Just sayin’
I have watched porn for 6 years, I have spoken to people who I could trust and even counseling. I dont really think Im that addicted to but I feel like I am becuase I have watched for 6 years. It has defintelt gave me a different perspective of women and I dont like what it has done to my emotions. I have not really have had a real relationship with a woman, I find that porn feels good at one time and then after I feel horrible and unsatisfied. What must I do to stop. How can I solve this difficult problem so that I can grow stronger in Jesus?
We have so many free resources to help you at XXXchurch.com Please feel free to navigate through the website. There are resources in every category (look for the tabs). You may also be interested in the X3pure workshop or joining an X3group. Clearly if you are concerned then that points to a problem. God has something better for you, that’s for sure!