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I have had a porn addiction since the age of 12 and i am 44 now i joined the army at the age of 19 and the freedom being away from home led me down the path of expressing my porn addiction in real terms….i have done nearly everything sexual since except pedophilia which i am being accussed of by the community i returned to in 2005…i am at my wits end as my whole life has been destroyed by this behaviour and i cant see a way out…i became a christian soon after leaving the army and thought i would be free of this vice. as word circulated in my community that i had this problem i was castigated by a particular pastor in front of every one in the congregation…i was in disbelief and never went back to the church again….more recently i was exposed indirectly by a clurgy member infront of another church congregation in a bible debate…and felt so humiliated i have not gone back to church either….my reputation is in absolute tatters and i have lost all my friends family and church support…i have lost my job…and there is a wispering campain about me being a pedeophile…every sexual encounter i have had in brothels in the city when the habit was so out of control that i went in broad daylight to brothels has been told as to the extent as to my sexual preferences and how much i paid…i want to just run but because of social media like face book the world is such a small place…i spoke to a pastor once about my situation 10 years ago and they said i should stay and face the music, which i did but now i have no quality of life. i feel like esau and effriam and im getting confused with not who i am in christ but what my purpose is now as i cant go anywhere in my city let alone church without being directly confronted. im being pushed underground and dont know what to do…im so isolated and confused and dispondant that i cant pray and i cant read my bible….i miss church but cant risk the humilation again…even the children at church dont look or respond to me the same…life is a mess…
A male member of our staff is going to connect with you but in the meantime I would recommend that you give Pure Life Ministries a call and see if their live in program might be the fresh start AND get-a-way that it sounds like you may need.
God’s arm is not too short!!
I am 14, grown and raised in a christian enviroment. I am currently going to a christian school and have a strong relationship with God. But now I am addicted to masterbating and porn. It started with googling victoria secret models when I was 11, and eventually it turned into watching porn at age 13. I eventually quit porn for about 5 or 6 months, than I started having sexual desires and taught myself how to master bate. I would do it in the shower. Its been about a month since i started and now I am doing it with porn. I don’t do it because I am depressed or anything, but just because I am bored and it feels so good. Now it has become addictive. How do I stop?
Sam,
Your struggles are not uncommon especially in the world of technology that we live in. Being so young you have a chance NOW to lay this down and walk in a way that will bring fulfilment and peace in your life.
If you read through the many questions, confessions, blogs and books available on our site the one common factor to breaking free is accountability in your life. You need to confess your struggle to someone you trust and someone who can hold you accountabile. This should be a person who is a positive role model in your sphere of influence. A parent, pastor, youth pastor etc.
Spend some time reading through Psalm 51 and hear David’s cry out to the Lord. Make that your honest heart cry too.
God sees, knows and longs to replace your false fulfilment with the real deal.
My boyfriend has been struggling with porn for a few years now. Not only is it porn with females, but males too. He is pursuing the Lord and has accountability with a few godly males who rebuke and encourage him, but as his girlfriend, I’m not sure how to help him with this. I know he is trying to avoid watching porn and masturbating but he still falls. I want to encourage and support him, but I’m not sure how to other than praying for him. What should I do?
It sounds like the right things are in place for him. It is up to him to walk this out. You can’t “do” anything to keep him pure. What a lovely girlfriend you are to be faithful to pray, I really beleive that is all that you can do. As time goes on there should be some fruit of repentance on his part. You will know.
God bless
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