Frequently Asked Questions.
Ok, hello, I have a question.. obviously. lol So, as I regret to say, I have had a real struggle with sexual fantasies, pornography, and masturbation for a very long time. I am a woman and I am 18. Just recently I have started to reach out for help with this horrible problem. I confessed to my mother and then confessed to my counselor. Next, I have been wanting to confess to my two closest friends. However, my problem is that I can’t seem to get past the thought that having these problems is so so weird. I mean, obviously, it really upsets me because it’s just soo shameful. It makes me feel like I am a weird disgusting person. I hate to feel this way, too. I don’t know, but I just would like some perspective on this maybe? I want to tell my friends, but I feel like if I do, they will just see me as sooo weird, and will never look at me the same way again. However, ya know, since they are great friends, I know they would probably support me and still accept me. But my friends, and me included, have never been able to express their opinions very well. That is kind of the main thing that the three of us have in common. It can be kind of annoying. lol (Especially when we are trying to make a decision, we all just want whatever the rest of us wants.) So that makes this real hard, telling them about such a…real… thing, that is. I don’t know if they will be able to truly look at me the same way and not just see instead a disgusting pervert.
You are not a disgusting pervert. You are a young woman who is dealing with something that a LOT of women are dealing with but none of them are talking about it.
The key here is friends that you trust. Those friends should be reliable and dependable.
Our founder, Craig Gross has a book coming out called OPEN and it is all about accountability. I really think this book with help you know how to ask for help as well as know what healthy accountability should look like.
Please spend some time in the women’s section and also consider joining a women’s X3group.
A friend told me last night that she reads gay porn fanfiction (related to anime). I don’t know how much or if it is an addiction but I know it has been going on for a few years. I’m concerned for her. She says she has a line between fantasy and reality and she knows what is ok in fantasy that is not ok in reality. But I know even if it’s fantasy stories that could never happen, what we put in our minds affects us. I think she knows it is a problem though, because she was wondering if there are support groups for people with that kind of issue. What should I tell her?
We have an entire section devoted to women as well as teens. There is an abundance of resources in those sections under “resources” including support groups.
Hi im…josh im not from the states but i need help…i was struggling with masturbation since 12 and that really pisses me off because im christian and i want to let it go…i know a few of guys (christian guys) who are struggling with this to…man is too hard…i dont masturbate always i used to do once and i feel bad and i repent and i pass two o three weeks masturbation and porn free BUT i felt again in the sin and this really really hurt me i know that this is bad and i want to grew up developing a ministry spread the word and help people…so i went to this camp…with a big band of come and live and chad jhonson and i really felt free of that sin pure! i spent maybe like 4 or 5 months free but again i felt in the freaking sin!!! PLEASE HELP ME OUT its a constant battle and i dont have enough money for the x3 software Thanks Sincerly Josh God bless you
Josh the X3watch software for accountability is FREE.
Keep getting back up and make sure you are staying accountable with some good, godly men in your life. If you did for 4 months you can do it again… one day at a time.