Frequently Asked Questions.
I am addicted to masturbation. I do it, then stop and then I do it again. How can I stop? I don’t watch porn, but my thoughts are what get to me. its more of a stress reliever. I am a single mom, I was in a tough relationship and its been a year since I have left him and have been involved in church for 2 years. I am soo ashamed of this secret.
You are not alone. Shame is also not from God– it’s from the enemy. I do think as hard as it would be to confess and get some accountability from a trusted girlfriend–this is what you need to do.
Craig’s book OPEN talks about why accountability is so important and what it should look like. Maybe that would be a start for you.
Hello, I have read some of your advice on avoiding the appearance of using a wife for sexual satisfaction. While I get it, I am greatly troubled by it. My wife seems to have almost no natural desire for Sex. I try everything I can think of to “Romance” her and she often seems to enjoy it. However, she is not motivated to respond with sexual intimacy. I tend to feel used and cheated as a husband. I am not perfect but I try to be a good husband. I am a good provider and actively engaged in our family. I try to organize dates and invite her to join me in all sorts of activities but she is not interested. I would not withhold from her anything that I could provide to make her happier, but what about me? I know she often tries to “Meet my needs” but I often just feel tolerated, not wanted. What am I supposed to do? Why does it feel like as a husband I am always asked to be more understanding and patient? Does she have no obligation in this marriage? What does a Christian man do with an active sexual appetite when his wife just seems disinterested?
It sounds like you guys both need a visit to a counselor who can help you both understand the importance of sexuality in marriage and perhaps what the hang up seems to be.
We offer a couples workshop that discusses so many aspects of love and respect in marriage and the marriage bed but there are also many Christian counselors or pastors that can help you as well.
My roomate and I have recently been developing a passion to minister to people with sexual addiction, mainly strippers. We want to build a relationship with the local strippers in town, but we would like some pointers on where to start. We literally know nothing about this. Thank you for your time and consideration.
A great place to start would be a StripChurch training! I do believe there is one coming up next month!