Frequently Asked Questions.
My husband and I have recently found our 8 year old son searching porn sites on our and our parents phones. He has been viewing some very hard core stuff. He has told me that being able to see it is worth the punishment. We have cut all media access for him. He says that he just got the idea to look up sex on his own over a year ago. We are at a total loss. We have no idea how to help him heal. Please help!
Thankfully you have intervened in love and are now correcting the situation. I think that continuing to talk openly and honestly to your son about sex and God’s design for sex is so important as is why there is so much counterfeits in the world we live in. We just had a webinar for parents about talking to your kids about sex. Check out: How to talk to your kids about sex.
You may also want to read this article on Parenting Made Easier with regards to living in a world of technology because your 8 year old is going to continue to grow up in this world.
Lastly, seeking out a family counselor and one who specializes in sexual development might be an option for you to give you peace of mind and the freedom for your child to discuss this openly with you.
The key is providiing unconditional love. Ultimately this is not his fault.
Hi XXX Church, My husband and I lead a family organization called Stronger Families in Seattle. Recently I posted a article about young boys and porn. Wasn’t quite prepared for the response. I have had 3 moms reach out bc after reading that article they talked with their little men and 2 of them are watching some pretty heavy stuff. They have never even kissed a girl yet! What are resources you recommend and next steps for this type of situation? Thank you so much for this amazing ministry!
I have a 14 year old boy who has been caught 3 different times viewing gay porn, he is NOT a feminine boy. He says he’s attracted to girls, should we be concerned? He’s very repentant, and it had never gotten out of control. He wants to be set free and loves The Lord. We have thrown around the idea of mentor or counseling! Counseling for porn makes me think we are giving the enemy too much attention. But maybe just general counseling, thoughts?
I think the idea of a mentor is FABULOUS. Your son needs a safe place to talk about his struggles and battles. Craig Gross wrote a book called OPEN and it talks about what real accountability should look like. There is also a youth curriculum available from Simply Youth Ministry that you may find helpful.
You are awesome parents for not ignoring this and giving your son the tools he needs to not live in shame but rather freedom!