Frequently Asked Questions.
Do you have any groups to connect with pertaining to Extra-Marital affairs? I confessed to my wife that I cheated on her with another man… This is influenced by past sexual situations that happened during middle school and have influenced this sexual deviancy within myself… I am seeing a counselor and working to restore my marriage but I was also hoping for other support groups.
While we do not have a group specifically for those who have had extramarital affairs, the X3groups do have members in groups that have had them. You may want to consider joining one of the groups to see if it is a good fit for you. I do think you will find the encouragement, accountability and support that these groups offer helpful.
I am so angry. How do I deal with * years of lies? How? How do I deal with what I saw he was doing? How?
First, I want to say I am sorry! This is such a hurtful thing to deal with in a marriage or relationship. Dealing with anger and years of lies is something that takes time and practice. 😉
For me personally (I discovered the same thing repeatedly in my marriage) it took having to do some serious personal counseling and some basic studies on anger (biblically) and putting what I learned about myself and about the word in place. It takes time. Keep short accounts with God– always confessing when you blow it. Also keeping in mind that we really want to extend the same grace to others that we expect to be extended to us by God.
I can assure you that you are not alone and that if you really pursue healing in this area you will gain it!