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I really need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly half a year. He told me early on about his porn addiction and we made promises to each other that if he quit his porn stuff, then I would quit drinking. We are both Christians with very strong morals, we just both had our weak points.
Anyway, we are accountability buddies and he has told me for the past 5 months that he is doing so well and hasnt looked at it once. It was really hard for him for the first month or two but he now says he is over it.
The problem is, I went to stay at his house this past weekend and while he was at work, I got nosey and looked at his internet history. I was so shocked to find almost 100 pictures and around 6 or 7 videos! I immediately started to cry. I am still devastated.
This is where I need help. I didnt want to confront him about it (which I know I should have) because I hate conflict and so does he…I dont want to start a fight. But just tonight I told him how happy I was that I was keeping my end of the deal and he just told me he was happy too. I also told him how happy I was that he was keeping his end too, trying to see if he would admit to it. But he just agreed with me and was like, “ya Im really happy too!” I dont know what to do! Its all I can think about and I dont want to start a fight or accuse him of something. I also dont want him to get mad for me snooping around. And most of all, this could possibly break the trust that we have worked to build up so strongly. Im lost and I need advice on what to do, say, or if I should just keep silent.
Thanks!

Jennifer,

You need to confront him, if you do not then where is your realtionship going? You need to be honest and put it into words that do not beat around the bush. Coming out with love not anger or hurt. Let him know that you found things on his computer, and that concerns you. Reassure him that you want to help him out with his problem. It sounds like you both have a good idea of what needs to happen. So make it happen and the sooner the better. The longer you hold it inside the worse it will be when you do talk to him about it.

Is it a sin?

I was wondering if bondage is a sin? Ever since the age of seven, I enjoy tying and gagging myself. I would lie on my bedroom floor for hours just tied up.

Do you just sit there and do nothing?

porn

I have been addicted to porn since 6th grade which makes it about 6 years now. i really want to be done. i am also looking into getting an ipod touch, ive had one before but my youth pastor bought me a different kind so that i would not have the internet so freely in my hands. so i am wondering if the accountability program will work on an ipod touch if i get one?

No right now there is not accountability for theIpod touch.  You can use www.safeeyes.comas a filter but, no accountability software as of right now.  Your youth pastor did the right thing for you.  It is not always about convenience when being accountable and staying clean.

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