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So, I’ve tried and tried to stop watching porn and I can’t consistantly stop.

I know you guys do the watch thing.
But I was wondering if you guys can connect me with a group of men that are struggling like.
I would love to connect with them to be part of a community That I can share this burden with

Yes we sure can:  X3groups are running strong and you will find camaraderie there along with encouragement, resources and regular meetings that help you to walk with others just like you!

Recovery from Addiction

Hello,

So I am currently engaged to a beautiful women who loves Jesus with her whole heart. We both are on staff with a ministry and are trying to follow God with our lives. Several months ago after some council from mentors, accountability, and bringing sin into the light broke free from my addiction to pornography and masturbation. Praise God! I’ve been walking in that freedom for several months now, but as I have been doing so, I have begun to realize something.

You see, I recently read an article on the website fightthenewdrug.com that was titled “4 things that Porn will teach you about sex” http://fightthenewdrug.org/4-things-porn-teaches-about-sex/#sthash.AWEp0A76.dpbs

As I read this, I realized that these lessons were lessons that had been taught to me during my 13 year addiction to pornography and masturbation and although I am not currently addicted anymore, these lessons were still taught to me. So my question is, how do I change this? Are there any resources for a guy like me who has spent 13 years getting my mind rewired and taught terrible lies about sex?

One of the 4 lessons in that article I referred to above was the lesson, “It’s all about you, man” basically explaining that porn teaches guys that sex is something that is completely about their wants and desires, but that isn’t true! I so relate to this in that I have seen how porn has taught my mind to have a selfish approach to sex and I don’t want that to be the case when my future wife and I begin having sex.

Do you know of any resources that help re-teach biblical truths about sex? Or at least help address some of the lies learned in pornography for those of us who are in the recovery stage?

Thanks for your insight,

I would highly recommend checking out Best Sex Life Now workshops!   The series was developed for married couples but then we realized how awesome it would be for engaged couples to go through it that we actually created a companion engaged couples workbook to go with it.     There are 10 workshop lessons and 2 bonus workshops.  One of the two bonus workshops is from a couple that had to work through a lot of what you’re talking about.

Jeff Colòn of Pure Life Ministries wrote a book called From Ashes to Beauty.   You may want to check that out as well.

 

Christian Beliefs

Can a person loose their salvation from porn use? I was recently listening to a well known christian speaker, who said, “Sin drives God away from you”, he continued to tell
about how God can turn his back on you when you have been involved in sin for awhile. At that point, you are condemned, and you will not be able to get God to change
his mind. You have actually reached the end of God’s grace. No amount of crying and repenting will work. I know it describes this situation in Romans 1;21-31. This is what
happened to Saul in the old testament. I have been involved in pornography for 15 years, and my relationship with him is ruined.

Does sin drive God away from you?   

Instead of me giving you my opinion,  how about I give you God’s word?

 

“If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there.” -Psalm 139:8

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” -1 John 1:9

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.  No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:38-39

 

I am aware that in Hebrews there is warning about “trampling the blood of Christ” and taking grace for granted (sinning for the sake of being covered and therefore without any reverence) and also Romans talks about God turning people over to their sin and allowing them to enter into depravity.   But keep in mind the latter is ultimately to bring about repentance and a turning back to God.

God pursues us and His desire for us is for us to turn from our wicked ways and follow Him for our good.  Not because He is hellbent on sending us there!   Just the mere fact that you are worried is a good sign that you still have conviction!   I think a balance of the Word is needed.

 

I hope this helps somewhat… and no, I do not think your relationship with Him is ruined.  Please spend more time in His word and in His promises.

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