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Same Sex Attraction.

For about 3 and a half years I have had a problem with Pornography and masturbation. for much more of my life I have struggled with depression, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts. I came very close to attempting suicide when my brother and sister in law intervened and ever since I confessed everything to them I have been in a very successful recovery. I have been free from Porn for 1 1/2 years and my depression has gotten so much better. My relationship with God was re-established and I have been doing so well with my struggles! I set up accountability with my sister in law and I have been working on getting to know my savior. I am growing up in a christian family and my parents have very strict beliefs. I have never been able to be open with my parents about my struggles and all they really know about me is the small portion of information they discovered in an email to one of my friends. When I was 12 I realized that I was attracted to women as well as men. Being raised in the bible belt I was petrified of my feelings and decided to hide them from even myself. A while after I re-dedicated a year ago I started having problems again with SSA. I have a best friend who identifies as bisexual and I have developed really confusing feelings for her. I really want to put my past behind me and move on with my life, but I feel like hiding my struggles from my parents is hindering me from moving forward. My problem is that if I share my struggle with SSA with my parents, there is a possibility that they will disown me. I have support from my brother and sister in-law and they are willing to take me in in case my parents over-react, but I really hope it doesn’t come to that. My dad has always said that if any of his children “came out” he would kick them out. He believes that having Same Sex Attractions and being Gay is the same thing. I do not plan to live my life as a homosexual and I still like guys as well, but I still have this struggle and I really want my parents to understand. I have written them a letter explaining everything they don’t know about my past but I am afraid to send it. We aren’t very expressive of emotions in my family and I feel disconnected from my parents. I think that they want me to be able to trust them, and I really want to be able to tell them about my life, but I know that this could make or break our relationship. I feel like I am risking my whole teenage life. I am scared I will lose them.Should I tell them?

This is such a hard situation to be in and even harder for me to discern with you becauase I do not know you and I do not know your parents.   I would say that the support you have from your brother and sister in law is amazing and you should probably present this question to them.  They know everyone involved and can help make a genuine decision.

Best wishes to you.  I think you are doing great!

god’s review of me

i have been watching porn and i feel that i am very far away from god.i tried to stop myself but i cant.i promised god not to watch porn but i still did.i feel that i have betrayed god and i wonder if god can forgive me for that?

God’s word tells us that if we confess our sin, He is faithful to forgive and He remembers it no more.

 

We need to set ourselves up to WIN the race so that we don’t keep returning to the same sins.  Make sure you remove everything that is causing you to stumble and be open and honest with someone you trust.

My brother/ family

Hello, I have asked my question in several places but have not received a response yet. I’m not sure this is the correct place to ask either so I will ask my question in short, but I would like to offer more info if its appropriate to ask this question here. In short, is it possible for a person (my brother) to recover from a 30+ year poem addiction without any reliance on God (he’s an athiest) or help from anyone, for that matter? I am a parent and just wa t to keep my kids safe. Please respond to [email protected] if I can ask this question here and I will provide more info.

Hi Lindsey,

I personally believe God’s truth is universal.  Therefore if your brother was to put in place true accountability and get the support he needed (there are SA groups) and if he removed every obstacle that causes him to stumble then yes- he can overcome.

You may want to seek out a counselor for more definitive advice as non of us are counselors.  Pure Life Ministries offers one time counseling calls if this will be of help to you.

Best wishes.

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