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Hi, my name is Nick and I’m a 14 year old high school student. When I was 11 I watched porn for the first time. I thought it was weird and it seemed wrong, but I wanted more. I was addicted but didn’t know it for about a year. My dad eventually caught me and took away my computer. That stopped my addiction for 2 years. When I was 13 I bought a computer and my dad told me if he found out that he would take away this computer. I was fine for about a year and a half. One night I got a porn virus on my computer and I had to tell my dad. My computer was taken and my addiction raged on. In my current condition I have been consumed by porn and masturbating. I pray for forgiveness every night I mess up. I keep making promises and I keep letting God down. I cant live like this. I need a way out. I need… to be free. How?
Dear Nick,
I know your dad has caught you twice but have you ever sat down with him and made it a point to talk with him about your struggle, the battle you face daily and your genuine desire to break free from it?
We believe that confession and real accountability is one of the greatest ways to win this thing. If your dad just doesn’t get it, what about your pastor or youth pastor?
You need some help going at this. We have a lot of free resources in the teens section of this site but nothing is going to take the place of real life accountability and someone to not only encourage you but really challenge you and hold you accountable.
God bless you.
How do you get over the craving to watch porn without giving in. Its been going well for a few weeks now, but I constantly find myself wanting to watch porn again and again. How do you deal with it? Simply ignoring it will work for the short term, but I want to get rid of this in the long run. It is especially getting harder now that I have to start studying for test and due to the tests and projects simply putting away your phone and laptop for a month won’t do. Can you please help?!!!!
Dear D.
Thanks for reaching out to us! We truly sympathize with what you are going through. Porn is a difficult beast to kill but it can be beat! To your credit it looks like you are brave enough to do something about this! For what it’s worth here are a few suggestions I believe will be tremendously helpful:
1. Get accountable- Confess this struggle to someone you really trust & who loves you enough to walk through recovery & restoration with you. Install accountability software & maybe even filtering software like X3watchPro on your devices/computers so you have that extra mile you need to go when feeling tempted to act out. This may serve as a sobering influence. All recovery starts with repentance & confession. You need to shed some light on this darkness & not live isolated in its shame.
2. Take the X3pure workshop – This course offers a ton of information that will help you understand the nature of what you are struggling with. This is a huge help in recovery. If you feel that your problem is too severe for a “workshop” seek out good Biblical counseling with someone who specializes in this area. Pure Life Ministries is the pioneer of sexual sin/addiction ministry and they offer counseling services and even a live in program for men.
3. Sign up for an X3group – Our online recovery groups are a perfect fit for those seeking out accountability & support. These groups meet weekly & offer you the face to face experience of a small group with other men who struggle with the same issues. These groups run $30 per month.
We are not professional counselors but these are three practical steps you can take towards recovery. I know it feels dark & hopeless BUT IT’S NOT! Carl (Our X3groups coordinator) struggled with porn for nearly 20 years and by God’s grace he has been completely clean/sober and walking in freedom/restoration for 30 months. There is hope & you can have victory over this area; you just need to take some action steps.
We hope this information helps you. Press forward to purity & trust God!
Hi, my name is Laila. I went to a church camp recently and I believe I felt God’s presence and was saved at camp. But I have a problem with masturbation and porn. I’m confused on whether masturbation Is a sin if your only thinking of an imaginery person so its not lusting. Right? Also Masturbation is my way of preventing myself from having sex. Is that wrong? Also need tips on stop watching porn, I know for sure that’s a sin. Thanks
Dear Laila,
This question has been asked and answered many times. So you are not alone in your thinking. Often times when we don’t want to give something up we will find countless reasons in our minds on how to justify it.
We take the stance that God designed sex and sexual stimulation to be mutual in marriage- a gift to give your spouse. Masturbation only serves self. It has also been repeatedly mentioned amongst so many who have struggled with this that the body can become dependant on masturbation for stimulation and then is not as sensitive in responding to the mutual stimulation found with a spouse. You have to make this decision yourself but this is our take on it.
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