Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Accountability

So I was looking to get an accountability. I have never had one and feel like one of my friends would be great for it. But here is my question she is a girl and I’m a male. Can I have an accountability partner of the opposite sex? If not then why not? I need some solid advice before I ask her and tell her my story

Hey Joey,

We do not typically suggest accountabily of sexual nature be done with members of the opposite sex because of obvious reasons. Often times too, women want to “save” men and the accountabilty can get messy.

There are some rare cases where this works but again we don’t recommend it. Check out Craig Gross’ new book “OPEN” for what accountability is and how it should work!

God bless you

addiction to interracial porn

hi, i am having a fantasy to watch an interracial couple have sex in front of me. i always gp clubbing and love the grinding that happens but i want more and more everyday. i watch interracial porn and i cant stop. please tell me whats the issue and how to solve?

Hey Joe,

The issue is lust. The issue is your flesh wanting to be gratified with what you have a propensity to find arrousing.

If you see this is a problem for you (and obviously by submitting this, y ou do) then we would recommend accountability and begin to set some goals in place to omit this from your lifestyle.

If you need to learn more about accountability, what it is and what it should look like, check out Craig Gross’ new book “OPEN”.

God bless

Porn

im a 15 year old girl and recently (though now regrettably) i watched porn. This wasn’t my first time watching it but i was introduced to it to my friend a couple of years ago but that was the last time i looked at it. Anyway, i had gotten the urge to watch it again so i did but now i’m really starting to regret it terribly. Ever since i watched it my mind can not stop thinking about it. Everything i do, my mind goes back to it. I even have fantasies about it which makes me feel dirty. I even start to imagine myself having a boyfriend and going down on him or him going down on me and then he goes out and cheats on me with another girl, which is my deepest fear if i ever do get into a relationship. It makes me sad to even think about it because im only 15 and i don’t want to worry about stuff like that right now. I just want to worry about my grades and enjoying my childhood being happy because i am recently going thorough severe depression. I plan on being a writer and i don’t want this to slow me down but it can’t those images out of my head. The thing i hate the most is that i watched one porn video that resembled somebody i know (but i most definitely know it wasn’t them) and now i can’t even looking at that person because my mind goes back to my video and i start to think about them doing it to that person. How can i get these thoughts out of my mind. I start school again next week and i really want these thoughts to leave so they don’t start to interfere with my school work. please help me. What should i do?

Dear Tyra,

The bible tells us that the only way to ‘renew our minds’ is by washing it daily with the Word. So— our recommendation is through prayer, fasting and reading the Word you will begin to overcome.

I totally agree with you that during this time in your life your concerns should be about school and enjoying your young life! God has so much for you and you are right– you don’t want to spoil that by settling for or absorbing a counterfeit.

Check out all of our recommended resources at the main website. You are definitely not alone!

God bless you.