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SSA Blog

What Happened to your SSA Blog, it helped me out a lot. It brought up a topic that not many people know how to deal with in the church and it help me to strengthen my relationship with Christ.

Hi Joseph,

The blog is still there it is just not linked to the main page anymore. We had very few SSA bloggers that were contributing content on a regular basis. We are working on a new content plan next month so we’ll know more then.

Masturbation, Porn, & Immense Guilt

I lost my innocence when I was little. I can’t really remember what caused it all. I’m a 15 year old girl who is currently struggling with porn and masturbation. I can go months without it happening, but then some thoughts creep back into my head and take over me and I fall once again. I have tried SO MANY TIMES quit, and finally leave it all behind me, but it’s so hard to leave it for good. I feel extremely guilty and ashamed after it’s happened. I feel like I’m not worthy of His love because I’ve masturbated and watched porn while I KNEW that I was sinning. I can’t listen to worship songs, pray, or go to church with having this much shame and guilt inside me. I have told my parents, and a few close friends, but it’s always very hard to talk about with them and bring it back up. I don’t know what to do at this point. I feel sorry for doing it, but I guess if I really was I wouldn’t keep coming back to it. All I want is to be freed from this burden, but how?

Talking about it once and never bringing it up again isn’t the answer. This is a real battle. You need those people who you trusted enough to go to for help to continually be a lifeline of prayer AND support AND encouragement for you– this only comes through TALKING about it.

Craig Gross’ book OPEN talks about this in great length. I think this book will help you to understand what accountability is and what it should look like in your life.

Freedom is possible but you need to put the right things in place.

Masturbation

I am 32 years old and am a Christian. My husband is as well. I know that we have both seen pornographic videos, but it is not something I would say either one of us is addicted to. However, he has recently started working out of town a lot and is away. Sometimes, I miss him and want to pleasure myself. I’m not sure if that in and of itself is wrong. I didn’t need any visual stimulation to do it. I would just think about my husband. However, the longer he is gone, it takes me longer and longer to be “satisfied” and I sought out visual stimulation. I know that aspect of it is wrong and I always feel guilty about it afterwards. I don’t know what to do and I haven’t talked to my husband about it either. I want to but don’t know where to start. What are your thoughts?

I think you need to have open communication in your marriage in all areas for it to be healthy. This means confessing when you have fallen short.

With regards to whether it is a sin or not (the masturbation without visual)– only you know if you are convicted or not but… like you said… it led to something more so that might be your answer.

Best wishes.