Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

sin

when a christian having holy spirit in him,is tempted and he failed and sin,then holy spirit go away from his life forever?

God sent us a “helper” called the Holy Spirit (John 14:16 & 26). God knows we are not going to live a perfect life. Only Jesus can do that…but Jesus IN us can help us when we are tempted to resist that temptation (James 4:7). We are all going to fall short and sin but we need to avoid a ‘lifestyle’ of sin. When we fail we need to aknowledge that to God (confess our sin) and ask for His forgiveness and begin to walk in a more righteous way (repentance).

If you fall- get back up! The bible tells us that though a righteous man falls– he gets back up again (Prov 24:16)!

My husband’s porn watching

During a heated argument about our sex life my husband told me he had watched porn and masterbated. He said it was my fault and I’m starting to believe him. I was raped at a young age (thats how my virginity was taken and I am currently in counseling seeking healing) and I just dont view sex in a healthy way. I often feel truly desired but rather like a conquest for male sexual gratification. My husband makes me feel like a body and our sex life isn’t at all romantic. He is usually yelling at me or telling me what to do. I usually push myself as I cry or just close my eyes and pretend I’m somewhere else. Other times I just don’t let him touch me. My body literally cringes. He says he watched porn because I always deny him. We have sex at least once a week (I just gave birth two months ago) but that isn’t enough. I want to be more open to him but knowing he watched porn and is so insensitive when it comes to sex and my body makes it hard and at times unbearable. I feel as though maybe he is right about his porn watching being my fault. I don’t know what to do.

I think a good start would be for you to BOTH be in counseling— not just you. It sounds like he needs some as well.

Information

I am a Counseling Pastor and I wanted to know if you have any information i could hand to my clients/students that would direct them to your sight? Also, have your lead pastors written/published any books on porn use/topics? Thanks for what you do it is very much needed!!

We do have many resources in each category of XXXchurch.com (Men/Women/Students/Pastors/Spouses etc.) under resources. We also have many downloads available here. All the books we’ve written or recommend are in the online store.